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My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby Andrea » Mon Jun 22, 2009 5:51 pm

I have a boyfriend, he's a great guy and love to spend time with him but he's awful in bed and I really like having sex so I get drunk and bang other guys, what should I do with him because I love sex and he is just awful
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Mon Jun 22, 2009 7:06 pm

Can you suggest things that he can do to make you feel better?
Suggest different positions/try different positions, etc could help a lot....

What is it that he isn't good at if you don't mind me asking- if you're open and honest about this with him (don't tell him obviously that he is bad in bed) but that you'd like to try more things to spice it up ?
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby Incorrigible » Tue Jun 23, 2009 6:28 am

Refresh my memory if I'm mistaken, but you only have sex with your boyfriend once a week, right? The rest of the time you're drunk and getting it on with strangers. Well, maybe he's horrible in bed because he hardly gets any practice. Perhaps you could try having sex with your actual boyfriend, rather than banging strangers 5 days a week.
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby mcrumbles » Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:36 am

My boyfriend is bad in bed too but you should not go somewhere else. Think how that would make him feel. You should talk to him about it or get a vibrator to help yourself. I too love sex and do not get enough because my bf is not into it, but I will never go anywhere else. You should consider breaking up with him because it is a bit cruel to do that to him.
Good luck :)
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby mata_hari » Wed Jun 24, 2009 12:24 am

I’m not sure whether your posts are real or not. You come across far too casual for the issues you’re addressing. You also talk about sex the way someone in middle school might. It’s not that I haven’t been crude when discussing sex, but I haven’t heard a grown adult refer to it as “banging” in quite some time.

For the sake of argument, I’m going to assume you’re a real person. What is it about the sex that you don’t like? Is this an issue of attraction or is it something specific that could easily be changed?

Does your boyfriend know that you’re having sex with other men? It’s common to lose attraction to someone if you’re having an affair on them. It changes the whole dynamic of the relationship.

Do you think you might have issues with intimacy? Do you find that you have to drink in order to enjoy sexual activity? Do you find sex more enjoyable with a stranger than with a committed partner? It's possible that you're boyfriend isn't doing anything wrong, it's just the perceptions you have about sex that are causing problems.
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby TryingSoul » Wed Jun 24, 2009 9:03 pm

I agree with Mata hari, and you owe it to your boyfriend to be upfront if your cheating, if you havn't already.
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby SmallTalkRed » Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:05 pm

Hi,
Can you really call someone your boyfriend, while you so loosely use the term "bang" others?

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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby Leviathan » Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:08 pm

I have to say, I hope your so-called boyfriend finds out and gets rid of you, he deserves better.
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:58 am

SmallTalkRed wrote:Hi,
Can you really call someone your boyfriend, while you so loosely use the term "bang" others?

Red



I missed that part of the post.... :|
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Re: My Boyfriend not good in bed

Postby lomohart » Thu Jun 25, 2009 7:25 am

I agree with what they said. It is really unfair for your bf if you are going around sleeping with other guys. If you really like him, then try to control yourself and talk to him about this issue. You might have some problems there...especially when you said that you have to get drunk and sleep with other guys often.
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