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The value of a one-year sexual separation?

Postby Osa » Mon Jan 19, 2015 6:46 pm

I read many posts on here asking whether one ought to break up with someone or stay with him, as if there can be no in between. When we consider the complexity of relationships that might be salvageable but none-the-less wrought with problems, could a one-year sexual separation be a solution? It would still allow you to build on your friendship if you want to, but it would still give you a sexual time-out for a year to give you time to better acquaint yourself with his character and yours, after which you might be able to make a wiser decision concerning the next step. Besides, if the relationship is on the verge of ending anyway, then this strategy could serve as a last resort to save the relationship; and if your sexual partner loves you enough, the relationship should be able to survive the year while you focus on rebuilding the relationship.

Might there be cases in which a one-year sexual separation might make sense as a last resort to save a relationship or likewise when you feel the relationship is moving forward faster than you can think and you just need a time out to better understand it?

Your thoughts on this?
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Re: The value of a one-year sexual separation?

Postby Osa » Mon Jan 19, 2015 7:11 pm

I could also see this being useful for a sex addict in a new relationship, since he may need more time to distinguish between lust and love, to figure out whether he really loves the person or just lusting after her (sex addicts can sometimes be quite sexually confused), to build trust in himself (wanting to be sure he won't end up cheating on his partner later), etc., and so might just need time to heal before committing to the relationship.
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