Hi my first post

Hi,

My son has been dealing with a RAD classmate since 2nd grade he is a 4th grader now. For some reason she has targeted him not sure why. She accuses him of being mean to her, hitting, hurting her in various ways. We have tried everything we know to try. Her favorite thing now is to tell other classmates my son has done something to her and they go after him pushing him down, punching him. We have talked to her parents (I applaude them for adopting her and I know its not there fault) We have talked with the school. They say they will take care of it but its just getting worse. My son does not deserve this and I am upset. Its not her fault she has this. My son is a sweet kid very passive and loving but he can not go on with this. I have read a lot on RAD which has made me more worried about my child being a target. Any help would be great.

Hey,

What I suggest is to 'force the issue' with the school and her parents that something HAS TO BE done about this. your son is suffering because of it, and that is not right. The longer it goes on, the longer your son will be hurt, long term. Someone - somewhere - simply isn't setting this girl straight. I imagine that her parents are being too nice to her, but kids don't need a 'nice' ear all of the time. they need to hear solid rules and an authoritative voice.

So, yeh, force this issue as your son's happiness could very well be on the line.

Kevin

I went to the school today and talk to the principle about the situation she assured me that this issue would be taken care of.
thanks for the quick reply

Hmm, fingers crossed that something is finally done now. Your son doesn't deserve this. It's one of thosde cases where we have to be proactive, and not reactive, if you know what I mean. Will you come back to update? I'd be interested to hear how it develops.

Kevin

Chucky wrote:Hmm, fingers crossed that something is finally done now. Your son doesn't deserve this. It's one of thosde cases where we have to be proactive, and not reactive, if you know what I mean. Will you come back to update? I'd be interested to hear how it develops.

Kevin

Yes, I will let you know how it goes

One of the things that is also frequently advised is to keep notes, document everything, every talk you have with school and every agreement.

Yes, that would be a good idea; but it is unfortunate that it IS a good idea. What I mean is, it's unfortunate that we feel the need to document everything - it's only for legal purposes. *sigh* - Why does life have to be this way?