I recently found out, two to three years after the event, that I violated my friend's consent when we had sex for the first and last time of our lives. I was drunk and she was drunk. I don't even remember that night clearly. In fact, most of the time, I forget it even happened, until she brings it up randomly. When I do think back on that night, I don't remember what or how we got to her bed. I was in her apartment. I know I was drinking there because I wasn't allowed to drink at my apartment. I vaguely remember being in bed with her. I don't remember who started what, or even if our clothes were on or not. I don't remember who kissed who first. I don't remember asking for consent and I don't remember her asking me either. I just remember us, two drunk adults, fooling around. But I do remember somehow getting her to not touch me as much because I knew I couldn't handle it. But I don't remember her telling me or doing things that would suggest I shouldn't touch her? But she was drunk. I was drunk too. So I touched her and sexed her.
Three years later she tells me that on that night she was too drunk to give consent.
Was I too drunk to give consent too? Am I rapist?