Okay so I'm not really sure how to say this without sounding rude but I watched a young lady on youtube (guessing about 20) talk about her experience about being called out in public by somebody she had never met just for being "ugly" and this guy told her he didn't even want to look at her. She also called fat another day by two guys.
My first reaction was angry at these a$$holes and why does this have to happen? but then I got to thinking if she lost weight (she could lose a bit to be honest) got contact lenses, and maybe styled her hair a different way, this would probably happen a lot less. I realize this shouldn't happen at all, and it is their problem not hers, and people aren't here just to look good. I was thinking more from the angle of if you make a video and complain about something you mentioned you get a lot, maybe put the effort in to losing weight. and if you want maybe change your style a bit.
Now this might sound kind of messed up but I also don't have a problem with "thinspiration" I don't like the skeletal grotesque images that are on a few of those videos ,but even with the waif thin girls, if you are an obese teen/adult maybe they should look at a few of those while you work out, come to the realization that you will never look like them because you are built differently at least you can be the best version of yourself, by mostly healthy eating and exercise.
I don't want to get into the whole eating disorder thing, because I've only had disordered eating once, and I was in control the entire time, I only did it because I liked the way it made me look, but as far as the psychological disorder, that clashes with my ocd as looking gaunt ages you.
But what I don't understand is, overweight people (without health issues, causing them to be overweight) complain about it but do nothing. I knew someone who was happy she discovered weight-watchers chocolate, and when looking for advice how to lose weight I suggested sit ups and she was like oh no I can't do that. (she was younger than me) no health problems just didn't like working out. I work out and eat full fat everything, someone gets me a diet anything and I send it back.
So my point is, what does everyone want here? It's a honest question I don't have bdd so I imagine its like an eating disorder, which must be horrible, but I've seen a few people here who don't seem to have it, as in seeing distorted images, being in normal relationships and a moderate amount of people thinking you are attractive.
So my question is, why don't you just take care of the problems? Like find what's unattractive and get it fixed? (people without bdd) If you think you're a bit plump, work out for free in you own home. If you have a flaw save up to get it fixed, I really don't understand why people hang around here and just complain, I know I've vented about being abused by people, but these are things that affected me greatly and made me feel low, and I'm saving up for surgery to fix those problems, I've seen two posts now about two different guys ashamed of their bad skin. If I was a guy I would just wear coverup, People say it makes you skin worse, wash it off at night, and don't listen to them, I don't know anyone who's skin has been made worse by it, if I was a guy that would definitely be my dirty little secret.
If you find my questions please answer them, because I really want to know why a lot of people are here? I'm here because I wanted a support buddy and for someone to help me on my journey, I don't get that vibe from everyone else.