BDSM is about power and pain; pedophilia is about gentleness and sweetness. BDSM is an expression of perversion and mental illness: BDSM is capitalopatriarchy -- pedophilia is a natural loving expression: pedophilia is a return to non-hierarchical pre-market & family-unit alloparenting-polysexual communalism.
I know that, I wasn't intending to compare BDSM to pedophilia on that level. What I was pointing out is that BDSM is a taboo fantasy, and so is pedophilia. Earlier cultures and societies were very suppressive of BDSM, and pedophilia is also suppressed in much the same manner. People don't are too scared to talk about it, and when you do hear it mentioned, it's either in a joking manner or in one that's meant to incite rage. Few people in the general public talk about it in a rational manner because they don't know the difference between a child molester and a pedophile.
Same goes for my attractions, I don't even know what to call it anymore, but to the general public it would be pedophilia and that's pretty much the same category that I (uncomfortably, I might add) lump myself into on these forums because even fewer people are aware of the terms "hebephilia" or "ephebophilia" but I associate myself with both because I'm attracted to teenage boys from the onset of puberty on up to older teens and up to my own age (I'm 26).
God, this mumbo-jumbo is such a mind trip sometimes!
And I've really no idea what I would term myself and in some ways it doesn't matter because I don't feel I quite share the anxiety I find on these forums anymore. There's more solace, I find, in seeking my spiritual self and not obsessing over anything. Obsession is one of the major plights of the 21st century because many of us have lost touch with our inner souls and want to connect with something. Worry only damages your body and sets off bad biochemical reactions. And much as we want to feel unique and use various terminology, I don't think it matters. Worry and stress are universal, just as in Buddhism, suffering is universal. But it can be overcome.
And I totally made this about something completely different, so I'm done rambling lol.
Anyway, my point was that everyone else has their fetishes and fantasies and most others can be legally catered to by various means, so why not pedophilia? Shotacon is illegal in many different countries...countries that also happen to have an abundance of child molestation problems. Japan has much fewer incidents compared to the rest of the civilized world.
If you love a flower, don't pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it dies, and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation. - Osho