skimmer wrote:did I offend anyone, did I cause someone who wanted to help to hide?
You’re post didn’t but many other’s do. I don’t think victims care or realize that we start off as young people too and it’s hard being scared by other people's hatred all the time.
skimmer wrote:Since you did answer I have a few questions. I want to take advantage of this oppotunity.
Please do, I wish more people would take an interest. And if a q&a session brings you a few answers which go some way towards the healing process, then I’m happy to oblige.
skimmer wrote:I just know that as a victim of sexual abuse- being used by an adult (or someone significantly older) for their sexaul gratification had severe long term affects.
Again, I’m sorry about this. I’ve grown up hearing and reading hundreds of stories of victims and every one of them is another dagger in my chest.
skimmer wrote:I have noticed that several people posting in this forum differentiate themselves as being a pedohpile but not an abuser of children. I am confused by this. Would you explain the difference?
It’s very controversial and different people seem to think differently on the subject. It has sparked extreme and sometimes hostile reactions in pedophiles to have the word used in reference to abuse. Basically, the difference is that technically, scientifically and psychologically the term “pedophile” is in reference to the attraction itself, it DOES NOT mean that anyone who has that attraction will abuse children or treat them in horrendous ways.
It’s practically an insult to the struggle that we go through every day to not draw any distinction. It’s not just you, of course, but the whole world out there doesn’t seem to believe that there is any difference between someone who is inherently this way (pedophile) and someone who abuses children (child-molester/child-rapist). The word pedophile is banded around and used interchangably to the point where there doesn’t seem to be any distinction at all, which is very confusing for us. If a pedophile is someone who has the attraction AND someone who abuses children, then what the hell are we who don’t abuse? Maybe we need a new word for it.
If you want me to elaborate further or ask any more questions, please do. Sorry if I sound a bit abrupt but it’s late here and I’m tired.