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Infantilism, how much can i be.

Postby refugee » Sun Sep 26, 2010 5:11 pm

I am personally trying to overcome the sexual addictiveness of AB/DL pornography, and other things that come with it. Right now I am not that deep into it, i've been able to improve since earlier times in my life. This post however is about infantilism itself. I feel like i wish i could keep a part of it with me (the part that doesn't include pornography), I like it, but i also have bigger priorities in my life. Namely is that I want to get married and live in Fidelity with my wife. If I had the chance to marry a girl who had good morals, and just so happened to enjoy the idea of wearing diapers together, I would do it. The problem is that, what are the odds i would ever come across a girl like that. Namely one who i first met by face to face contact, i am not the type to meet first online. I need some ideas of what i can do to make sure I am not a disappointment to whoever i propose marriage to and have to tell her that I am a bit infantilist. Should i just remove it from my life completely, or maybe it isn't as big of a problem as i think. I certainly am going to get rid of the pornographic part of it all though.
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Re: Infantilism, how much can i be.

Postby likewise » Sun Sep 26, 2010 8:16 pm

Depending on how deeply ingrained the fetish is, you might be to leave it behind, or at least keep the thoughts and fantasies to a minimum. Since you don't want to meet somebody online, it's going to be difficult to find somebody who shares it. I think stopping looking at that type of porn is a good idea, maybe try to cut out porn altogether (if you can). Are you able to find women attractive and arousing without the fetish? If so, that is a good thing, I think you should focus on that as your goal, it sounds like you have made some good progress on this already. If you find somebody who really loves you, you could try telling her about about your fetish, if you feel it is important enough to risk your relationship; but why run the risk if you don't have to? Or maybe by that time your mind may have moved on to other things. I would be really careful about letting fetishes determine your life.

Edit: I danced around the subject a bit in the preceding paragraph, so let me tell you how I really feel. When you find other people who share your fetish, it makes it seem more "normal," more like a part of yourself, you become less ashamed, and begin to think of it more and more. So I think that staying away from this material might be a good course of action. It might seem like fun now, but you really don't want to get to the point where this is the only thing you that arouses you, that's not good, not good at all. The biggest concern is that you will start to become aroused when thinking or looking at actual babies and diapers (even though your fantasies don't involve actual children). Also there is the fact that the deeper you get into this stuff the weirder it gets, and the harder it is to relate to "normal" people sexually and socially. That's just my humble opinion. I'm really torn as to what to say here. On the one hand I don't want you to feel guilty about your fetish, on the other hand I want you to very carefully weigh the costs of having it possibly control your life. Remember, this is just a silly fetish, the lifelong relationship you may someday form with somebody is so much more important than this. I don't want you to miss out on that opportunity because of some silly sexual obsession you once had.
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Re: Infantilism, how much can i be.

Postby refugee » Mon Sep 27, 2010 4:37 am

Thanks for being straight forward about it. It is a true concern, it worries me too that a fetish of infantilism could turn towards pedifilism. Which is a horrifying thought. Fortunately women do turn me on regardless of the diapers. It is acurate to say "some silly sexual obsession you once had". The hardest thing though is that it really does consume me sometimes. When I try to stay away from it, I start dreaming about it, and it seems like it will never go away. That i think is the hardest thing, In reality i think di could say that I really don't care about infantilism any more. Subconsciously though, I am not sure if I feel the same, so sometimes it seems easier to set a goal of finding a girl who likes it too. Porn is definitely out though. Although it ticks me off that i just got the urge to go and look at it tonight. ugh. I am glad to have support from people on this website.
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