AoW wrote:First you must know that girls under 16 can not legally consent to a sexual relationship. Besides that they are not psychologically mature to give consent, because they still do not understand the implications, and most importantly they do not have the ability to cope with the complications of such relationships. That is the primary reason for such laws in our societies.
Second you need to examine and understand your own reasons for wanting such sexual relations. Looking at your history as per your post, I would suggest that you examine your own sexual maturity in a psychological context. By developing sexually so early as you did, it is quite possible your sexuality never quite matured beyond pubescence. That could be why you feel such strong attraction to girls of that age range. A person's sexuality generally matures as with physical age - therefore our attraction to sexual partners within an age range that matches ours.
Now obviously the question is how do you mature your sexual age? Unfortunately that is not something that can be done via a forum. You will need to find a therapist that can work with you on that.
As an example: There is nothing wrong with sexually fantasizing about the centerfold in a sex magazine. Such fantasies are centered around the physical appearance of the boy/girl in the photo. However it is wrong when you fantasize about a boy/girl from a magazine where you know it is child pornography.
The problem with some responses above is the justification: "sex with minors is legal elsewhere". Yes, there are societies where boys/girls engage in legal sex when they become sexually mature. But those are NOT our societies. There are many psychosocial reasons those societies are different than ours (I don't want to elaborate on that here). Its like justifying murder with the argument that human sacrifice is legal in a tribe in some deep dark continent.
The other justification I find wrong is that because girls look older than 14 they should be ready for a relationship. Yes, boys/girls may look physically mature at 12, and might be able to have sex, but they are not psychologically ready. Being physically able to reproduce does not make the person sexually or physically mature.
Lastly, be careful of justifying a problem by denial or transference. This means that a healthy person will recognize a problem, and admit to it being a problem. That is half the way to recovery done. A person with a problem will justify something as acceptable via the argument that others do it too. Did you know that most rapists and molesters justify their actions by saying their victims "wanted it anyway" and were given non-verbal consent via dress or actions, and that most pedophiles justify their actions by stating that they were simply "educating" their victims.
AoW wrote:Now obviously the question is how do you mature your sexual age? Unfortunately that is not something that can be done via a forum. You will need to find a therapist that can work with you on that.
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