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You may not know that I am an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I am telling you this because I may be biased despite my attempts otherwise.
The definition of the word Pedophilia is as follows:
American Psychiatric Association:
"recurrent, intense, sexual urges and sexual arousing fantasies of at least six months duration involving sexual activity with a pre-pubescent child."
American Heritage Dictionary:
"The act or fantasy on the part of an adult of engaging in sexual activity with a child or children."
"sexual activity of an adult with a child"
"the primary sexual attraction toward prepubescent children."
This was the most complete definition I ran across and in my opinion the most accurate.
As you can see depending on the source the definition varies. Since pedophilia is anything from a fantasy of sexual activity with a child to sexual acts with children depending on the source, then a pedophile is anything from a person who fantasizes about sexual acts with a child to a someone who actually commits those acts.
Every definition involved sexual fantasy or activity however so your intimation that pedophiles do not have sexual feelings for children is false according to most major dictionaries and sources.
In the extended definition it is indicated that pedophiles themselves refer to themselves as either boylovers or girllovers, emphasizing the emotional connection instead of the sexual one. In my opinion this is done because they feel shame about the sex acts but not about the love. By saying they love the child they can then justify the sex acts in their own minds.
I hope Jarno that if you are a pedophile either in your definition or in the standard definitions I have offered that you get help. Wehether or not you see it the "love" pedophiles have for children is wrong. You yourself admit that sexual acts with children are wrong, I go one step further.
Having any sort of romantic feelings for a child is wrong. Children are incapable of understanding the emotions involved and can be damaged too easily by misguided adults.
I'd also like to highlight one of Taran's comments:
Pedophiles are not born. They are made. A few survivors of childhood sexual abuse go on to become adult sexual abusers themselves. And then the cycle continues. Every pedophile was himself abused as a child, though he may deny that it was "abuse."
Not all abusers were abused themseleves. The website menstuff.com states that:
"Ironically, only a small percentage of men abused as boys become pedophiles, said Hunter. However, an overwhelming percentage of pedophiles of either gender were sexually abused as children."
The problem is finding statistics that match. I saw numbers ranging from 30% to 80% of pedophiles that were abused as children.