Am i a Pedophile?

No blow jobs. That counts as child molestation. It is illegal. Even if she agrees to it. The whole point of having an age of consent is to make it illegal even if she agrees to it.

No watching videos of other kids giving blow jobs. That counts as child pornography. It is also illegal.

As to how it would ruin her life, there are a few mechanisms. First off, you could go to jail, and she could end up believing it's her fault, and she'll beat herself up over it for years. Secondly, children who are sexually active at an early age are judged harshly for it in modern western countries. That judgement could end up internalized, and she'll come to believe she was taken advantage of even if it was consensual at the time. You get told you're a victim or a slut often enough and you might come to believe it. And she will get told both about that experience over and over again even if no one ever finds out that she did it.

It isn't fair and it isn't right that you have to worry about these things, but you do. DO NOT DO ANYTHING SEXUAL WITH HER WHATSOEVER!

I'm sorry but the fact that you were considering a blowjob is concerning. Please do not meet this girl in private. Please do not do anything sexual with this girl at all. This situation is too dangerous for yourself and the girl you love. Please don't put either of you at risk.

The longer this goes on the more I think; Troll.

No im not a troll. Well in the video it looked like the girl was doing it with free will. And ok, i understand what you mean, guys. I will not do it.

Even if she did look like she was doing it of her own free will it may not have been, she may not have fully understood what was going on and it is illegal. Every child is different and there are not only legal and psychological consequences but social consequences too which can make things even worse for both of you. Please don't put her in that dangerous situation.

This thread is reaching a dangerous point. Kid read carefully. I understand that you may lack experience sexually with girls your age hence your failures that led you to talking with this little girl. The mere fact that you had and may continue to have sexual thoughts about her shows that you are losing control of your emotions towards her. Yes you may think that you will not take advantage or hurt her if you guys were in a private location BUT what will you do if you can't control the sexual urge building as you guys kiss or cuddle like you say you have ALREADY. If you have actually kissed and cuddle with her in a seemily public places this shows that both of you are too comfortable with each other. And as a 17 y.o. your sexual urges may take over no matter what you think. Like other posters have said DO NOT SEE THIS GIRL IN PUBLIC. You will regret ruining both of your lives.

NOTE: Your possession of that blowjob video is highly illegal and not something you just bump into. You actively searched for it and I dont blame you. Desires that cant be satisfied are truly punishing and extremely hard to ignore. You are going down a very dark tunnel if you proceed to entertain this. Sexual thoughts of minors are a red flag. In your case its still something very new to you. So turn back now and exit the tunnel while you still can. FAIR WARNING.

I disagree strongly. Sexual THOUGHTS are not the problem. The problem is that he's unwilling or unable to grasp that actually engaging in sexual ACTS with her is illegal for him and dangerous for her, even with her willing consent.

Thoughts are never the problem. I freely and happily engage in sexual fantasies about young children daily and am nowhere near to crossing any sort of line. The OP (assuming that other posters aren't correct about this being a troll account here to push buttons) is unclear on where the legal and moral lines are, somehow, and is ACTING, not just THINKING.

I agree YouthRightRadical. His ACTIONS definitely are the problem. Sorry for not explicitly saying so and possibly confusing the OP even further. Nevertheless, at his age thoughts are almost as good as actions due to the raging hormones especially if he is a virgin or has very little experience with sex in general. Without a doubt, OP you are engaging in illegal activity that can hurt her more than you in the long run. All in all, for all readers practice self control and dont put yourself in situations that you have to question.

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