I have been married to my husband for 20 years. His PPD (my diagnosis) waxes and wanes but I have finally decided I am not willing to stay with him and live out my life with his constant accusations. Over the years he has tried to control my every move and follows me around constantly questioning me about where I go, who I see, etc. Even going to the grocery store for milk he thinks I am having romantic encounters. For the past two years he has been consumed with the idea that a certain man that I am barely acquainted with is stalking me. He thinks this guy is following me around trying to make time with me. When we are in traffic he insists he sees this guy following us and I never see him. This all started two years ago, the acquaintance I a referring to asked to be Facebook friends (our kids go to school together). I accepted the "friendship" because I could see no reason not to, and my husband went crazy on me, demanding I block him. I was appalled that he was trying to control my friends on Facebook and refused to delete him upon principle.
Each and every day since then has been miserable. He yammers on for hours about this poor guy who has no idea any of this is going on. He has a wife and three children, a job, and a life. He is in no way following me around. I haven't even said hello to this guy in over a year! My husband doesn't believe me and says I wouldn't tell him if I saw him. I try to reason with him, that never works. I have tried asking him to hire a detective to have me followed so that he will have proof that do not meet this guy. He just escalates until he is so verbally abusive I have to leave the house to avoid him, at which time he flips me off and tells me he will lock me out of the house. I am so worn down that even against my own principle, I agreed to block the guy from my FB if my husband would leave me alone. He said okay! and became almost giddy. It was sickening, I was sick about conceding to his sick unfounded desire to control me. I told him if I did this the marriage is over, because I can't continue under his control like this just to get through the day.
Honestly, If we didn't have children I would have been gone long ago. I will need to get out of this marriage to keep my sanity but I would like him to get help for his own sake and the sake of our children. How can I get him to see how his paranoia is destroying his life? He even recently landed a great job and lost it because he wouldn't do a background check for them. He is just going to keep spiraling down once Io leave him, because I am the only one who offers the voice of reality. It is so tragic that that this disorder is so damaging. I have little hope for him. I feel guilty for wanting to save myself from his misery, but it is sucking the life out of me and I am done. I'm tired of being a victim and I want my life back. This was cathartic, thank you and good luck to you all.