by funky » Thu Aug 16, 2012 11:25 pm
Yellow, to someone without ocd, your thoughts may sound hurtful or strange, but believe me, as a fellow ocd sufferer, they don't sound strange at all; I know where you're coming from, and it sounds as though you've got a sort of confessional version of ocd too, which I understand.
The trouble is, we doubt our own minds, and when we confess our thoughts to people, they don't understand that it's a sort of self sabotage. The only 'purpose' of those thoughts is to upset us, by giving us fears that we have 'forbidden' desires.
I've had far worse thoughts than you, and, like your husband, the people that my thoughts involved have sometimes been hurt by them, and not able to fully dismiss them as ocd fuelled, because they didn't fully understand how ocd brains work. You did right to tell your husband - you are suffering, and he wanted you to tell him, so that he could help you - you had to tell someone, and who else would you tell but the person closest to you - there is no-one else whom you could have told, in your circumstances. I've done the same.
Perhaps you could explain to your husband that if people with ocd told their nearest and dearest about their ocd thoughts, they would be similarly hurt, but that they have absolutely nothing to be really worried or hurt about.
Get yourself and your husband along to that therapist, so that the therapist can explain to your husband that your thoughts are not related to any secret desires on your part.
Best wishes,
funky.