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Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obsessin?

Postby Crazy P » Wed Jun 27, 2012 10:30 pm

Basically I've had a really obsessive thought about a certain event for quite a while, and because I can't properly remember the event its driving me nuts. I have this "memory" of the event in my mind, but I'm not 100% sure its correct, it just feels really right. Could I just be having the feeling that this memory is 'right' because ive obsessed about it so much and because its how I want to remember it, or is that impossible? Cheers
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby funky » Thu Jun 28, 2012 5:23 am

From what I've read generally, yes, it is possible. Another thing that can happen is that 2 or more people, who witnessed the same event, can have entirely different memories of what happened.
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby Crazy P » Thu Jun 28, 2012 1:33 pm

the thing is though, when this memory came into my head it felt right immediately, if I had just convinced myself it wouldn't I have had to keep telling myself its right?
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby funky » Thu Jun 28, 2012 6:23 pm

You really need to speak to a therapist about this. Only he or she can help you to discover whether your memory is true or false, and how to deal with it in either case. It's well worth asking to see a therapist if you aren't already, as I doubt if this current worry is the first one you've had. Ocd tends to mean that there's usually something cropping up regularly to worry ourselves over, so you need help in dealing with any obsessive thinking generally, as well as this particular worry.
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby Crazy P » Thu Jun 28, 2012 10:31 pm

I am currently on a waiting list to see a CBT specialist but its been ages since I've heard anything from them, so for the mean time I'm just having to deal with my crazy thoughts by pleading online, haha :) I'm quite sure its a proper memory though, because its always felt right since it came up, rather than me just telling myself its right, if that makes sense?
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby funky » Fri Jun 29, 2012 4:45 am

Have a look at the book I recommended in 'Another good book about ocd.', and at margharris' thread, 'Great guru for ocd. Fred Penzel.' They may help you. (Both threads are on this page of the forum.)
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby Crazy P » Thu Jul 05, 2012 1:36 am

cheers man, ill be sure to give it a look, any help I can get!
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby atp71 » Fri Jul 06, 2012 12:56 pm

The answer is yes. This can happen. It happens to me all the time.

Also, be careful when talking to a therapist. Some of them don't understand this type of OCD and can make things worse by encouraging you to think about the obsession. You have to learn to accept the uncertainty of the memory. Maybe it happened. Maybe it didn't. Its actually impossible to know for certain.

Look up the work of Laura Loftus for info on the unreliability of memories.
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Re: Can you convince yourself of a false memory due to obses

Postby Crazy P » Sat Aug 04, 2012 8:26 pm

it feels really correct though, and id give anything just for this memory to be correct cause itd mean that the whole thing ive been worrying about is invalid and untrue. Is it possible that the memory only feels right because its what i want to be right, or because it is correct? how can i be certain its a memory
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