I am now 19 years old and I have OCD since 11-12 years old.
I was wondering about OCDs getting in a relationship, marrying, creating families etc. I have never been in a serious relationship yet. Does OCD make things harder?
I mean, I can imagine that telling your potential partner that you have obsessive irrational thoughts and the urge to carry out a "protective" ritual can scare the s**t out of them (not even to mention HOCD). We know what's wrong with us and have more or less accepted our faith, but how do "normal" people react to that? Those who have no interest in psychology might start thinking about serious mental illnesses, like shizophrenia or psychosis. They might be afraid and try to flee from the OCD as soon as possible.
Or assuming a relationship has been built, I can imagine that the partner may feel annoyed in quite a short time because he would constantly need to listen to all kinds of worries and maybe also feel like the OCD doesn't trust him when he tries to calm the person down, because obsessive thoughts don't go away so easily. He might also feel that the person with OCD is egoistic, as he is always worried about himself or some unimportant things.
Am I maybe wrong? Can OCDs have a good family life after all? How should we tell our partner about our problem? Or should we not tell all the details and only mention it briefly? Or maybe look for someone who has an OCD themselves?
Up until now, my only "relationship" with a person who found me and my whole chaotic personality "interesting" ended with a desaster, I've already written about it here: post657069.html#p657069
. But I really wish to find someone to love someday and make a nice family. I'm scared now that my OCD can ruin my family plans.