haha123 wrote:So, lets say that you heavily regret some sexual thoughts/fantasies that you've come up with in the recent past, and you stress about it ALOT, and eventually feel numb, can this change your sexuality? Or will you return to your normal sexuality within some time?
Stress and depression can really mess up your thinking. For some people, it can make you THINK your sexuality has changed, but deep down at the base level, it will stay the same. So yeah, you will "return" to your normal* sexuality within some time.
* "Normal" is a tricky word to use, "original" would be better maybe?
jdd wrote:Side question for anyone to answer: Would the world be better off if we are ever able to discover a way to make it malleable for a personal choice? Maybe, or maybe not. Some think that if there was a pill or w/e that the person would still not feel okay on the inside but I would think that such change would change your sexuality as a whole (including the parts that make you feel emotional about it) since that would be the idea, therefore the feelings would switch to the types of people your new choice would be.
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I have no idea if this will be triggering, but I don't really understand HOCD so I don't want to trigger someone inadvertently.
I don't think it would be a good thing if there were a pill like that. I'm sure some people would abuse or misuse it, or sneak it on other people and who knows what else. Sexuality is confusing enough for many people. Better to deal with the hand you were given than to complicate things. That's just what I think.
I find the term "Personal choice" interesting here. A lot of people think being gay is a personal choice, and I never understood that. As a gay person, I never considered being gay something I "chose". Instead, it's something I had to deal with, accept and get used to. Yeah, I went out with girls and lost my hetero virginity, but that was more of a case of
making sure I wasn't straight, rather than weighing my options to make a choice. How many heterosexuals (who do NOT suffer from HOCD) have wondered "Hmm...should I go for the gay thing or stay straight?" Why would anyone CHOOSE to change to a sexuality that is generally not accepted socially? When I hear conservative types going on about how being gay is a "choice" I have to question their sexuality. Basically they're saying that sexuality in itself is a choice, and since people's viewpoints usually stem from their personal reactions to life experiences, it would follow that these people have at some point "chosen" heterosexuality, which would mean that they had to reject their feelings of homosexuality. My main take-away from this suggests that these "choicers" are all, at the very least, bisexual.