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Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby Shadowking58 » Fri Jan 24, 2014 2:10 am

Coming from a person like me who used to be a daily watcher of porn (I'm not proud of that) My mind has been taken over sexually. Everything I think of, whether it would be sexual or not, will have some sort of sexual thought pop up relating to whatever that is. This is where I assume my gay intrusive thoughts are coming from. I want to abstain from porn use as well. But first I want to know if this is possible? Can gay thoughts come from watching porn? I pretty much started at straight, but that got boring after a while, so I switched to gay porn, then after that got repetitive, I went to futanari (Girls with Penises) Porn. See the pattern here? Everything gets repetitive eventually. Now, about 6 years after I started I am where I am now. This is completely possible, right? Can unwanted thoughts come from a porn addiction without having OCD or any form of it?
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Re: Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby postbreakupstruggles » Fri Jan 24, 2014 11:27 am

Watching porn isn't unhealthy as long as you keep it at a healthy level (maybe one-3 times a week). Porn obsession, IMO, is when you prefer it over the real thing. I only watch porn when I'm in the mood and I don't have a girl friend so.

I've been there. I'd say I have a slight case. The days when I look at pictures and notice women all of the time, I'm ex tactic. When I talk dirty to a woman I get hard immediately. Then I think about having these conversations with another man and I get a weird anxious feeling that's in disgust.

It's out there. If you know you're not gay don't feed these thoughts. I know my intrusive thoughts came from 2 relationships ending in a span of six months. It's terrible bc I've never had a thought like that all my life. Have they improved? Yes. But I have my days where my attraction to women seems in doubt. But I know I would never be happy touching another man. I know it enough not to try it. Why? I enjoy cuddling with a gorgeous woman. Talking to her emotionally , intimately and some dirty sex convos only bring a smile to my face. Kissing her and caressing her. Those are the thoughts you need to get back into your life.

I remember seeing two dudes "go at" in a bar. Grabbing each other and making out. I thought I was going to throw up. That was just almost 1.5 years ago. I was 23. That feeling of disgust seeing that won't change.

I'm interested to here what may have sparked your OCD ? Any bad break ups or experience with women that gives you doubt?
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Postby postbreakupstruggles » Fri Jan 24, 2014 11:27 am

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Re: Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby Shadowking58 » Fri Jan 24, 2014 11:56 am

postbreakupstruggles wrote:Watching porn isn't unhealthy as long as you keep it at a healthy level (maybe one-3 times a week). Porn obsession, IMO, is when you prefer it over the real thing. I only watch porn when I'm in the mood and I don't have a girl friend so.

I've been there. I'd say I have a slight case. The days when I look at pictures and notice women all of the time, I'm ex tactic. When I talk dirty to a woman I get hard immediately. Then I think about having these conversations with another man and I get a weird anxious feeling that's in disgust.

It's out there. If you know you're not gay don't feed these thoughts. I know my intrusive thoughts came from 2 relationships ending in a span of six months. It's terrible bc I've never had a thought like that all my life. Have they improved? Yes. But I have my days where my attraction to women seems in doubt. But I know I would never be happy touching another man. I know it enough not to try it. Why? I enjoy cuddling with a gorgeous woman. Talking to her emotionally , intimately and some dirty sex convos only bring a smile to my face. Kissing her and caressing her. Those are the thoughts you need to get back into your life.

I remember seeing two dudes "go at" in a bar. Grabbing each other and making out. I thought I was going to throw up. That was just almost 1.5 years ago. I was 23. That feeling of disgust seeing that won't change.

I'm interested to here what may have sparked your OCD ? Any bad break ups or experience with women that gives you doubt?


I actually never had a girlfriend before. But my gut tells me that I'm straight. So I want to follow my gut, however I heard that people who mainly think about the same gender hint towards leaning gay. So that worried me because the intrusive thoughts were never from OCD at all, so now I'm scared, really scared.
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Re: Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby Zamyou » Sat Jan 25, 2014 12:22 pm

Well i'm the one to say it..
I definately believe, and have read, about ppl switching from straight to gay porn.. that doesnt make them straight 2 gay because the goal is not to form an intimate or emotional relationship etc.. its only to get off quicker.. also anxiety and the kinkiness or the porn itself is a must for many when getting off.. small fetishes become more meaningful, but after no PMO the core sexuality will resume..
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Re: Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby postbreakupstruggles » Sat Jan 25, 2014 5:49 pm

Shadowking,

May be a form of a tough lesson, but listen. You didn't have a girlfriend? That doesn't mean you are gay. So stop that thinking. I know of a few people who didnt get into a relationship until they were almost 30 years old. One said he dated but he could never gel with anyone until he met his long time girlfriend of almost 2 years now. Sometimes it's worth the wait instead of settling for whatever, right?

When going through your early years, you were always attracted to women correct? Stop trying to second guess yourself. Find the root cause of this. I found mine and it made me seem like an idiot as to "why am I worrying over nothing and something that isn't true"? If you have no signs of same sex attraction, it's not going to suddenly change.

You aren't gay. If in your heart and gut tells you, you want a woman to have an emotional relationship and spend the rest of your life with and the thought of a man taking that place gives you stress, then it's flat out simple, you are heterosexual.
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Re: Intrusive thoughts caused by a Porn addiction?

Postby Shadowking58 » Sun Jan 26, 2014 2:14 am

postbreakupstruggles wrote:Shadowking,

May be a form of a tough lesson, but listen. You didn't have a girlfriend? That doesn't mean you are gay. So stop that thinking. I know of a few people who didnt get into a relationship until they were almost 30 years old. One said he dated but he could never gel with anyone until he met his long time girlfriend of almost 2 years now. Sometimes it's worth the wait instead of settling for whatever, right?

When going through your early years, you were always attracted to women correct? Stop trying to second guess yourself. Find the root cause of this. I found mine and it made me seem like an idiot as to "why am I worrying over nothing and something that isn't true"? If you have no signs of same sex attraction, it's not going to suddenly change.

You aren't gay. If in your heart and gut tells you, you want a woman to have an emotional relationship and spend the rest of your life with and the thought of a man taking that place gives you stress, then it's flat out simple, you are heterosexual.


That's what I needed to hear. And headaches count as stress for me, yes.
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