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Postby dice3510 » Mon Dec 24, 2012 7:40 pm

Has anyone had this? How did you cope with it?
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby SBBro » Mon Dec 24, 2012 8:20 pm

I have it now, its possibly mood related.

Same treatment for OCD/Anxiety/Depression: Exercise, CBT, Diet, Meditation.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby dice3510 » Mon Dec 24, 2012 9:57 pm

Can you describe how it manifested in your case?

Can you explain how you would apply CBT in this case?
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby SBBro » Tue Dec 25, 2012 4:01 pm

Stopping a steroid cycle.
Cbt being twice daily mindfulness meditation.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby mereni796 » Mon Dec 31, 2012 4:07 am

I have dealt with this too. I have had ocd my whole life, and when this popped up (not til 4 or 5 years ago, when I was in my mid-twenties) I wasn't sure if ocd was to blame or if I was just in a difficult/insecure place in my life. Probably I was vulnerable, which was a good time for the ocd to attack.....
To be honest I didn't find something that helped me significantly with that symptom. Daily meditation did help me, as did the medication I take. But I found it was a hard symptom to get rid of, because I truly did make some bad decisions and I couldn't let go. It affected my relationship, self-esteem, everything......Therapy helped somewhat also. Mainly it just took quite awhile for it to go away, and I wish I had more advice for you, but it seemed to fade by itself after a year or so. It still pops up occasionally.
If you have the (insurance) option maybe try a therapist who is experienced with ocd/anxiety.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby SBBro » Mon Dec 31, 2012 2:30 pm

I truly did make some bad decisions and I couldn't let go


You are either past, present or future minded.

Present minded is the most healthy.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby mereni796 » Tue Jan 01, 2013 3:18 pm

I agree that present-minded is the best, just easier said than done :wink:
Meditation did help me with that somewhat though.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby SBBro » Thu Jan 03, 2013 6:50 am

Exercise
Meditation
Work
Having a busy schedule of things to do

Eventually your mind will adapt to not worrying so much.
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Re: Obsessive regret of past choices

Postby evie_eve » Tue Aug 16, 2016 8:45 am

For the first time in a long time I feel normal after reading this post! I have OCD in it's varying forms for my whole life and regret has played a big part. I just thought I had an issue with 'regret' but it's only now I am linking the two and googled it and found forums such as these! I always analyse over what I have or haven't done, where I caused something to go wrong, and its like a loop on my head. I can't CBT my way out of it like others. I just have to let it run it's course, although dance and meditation and acupuncture (for anxiety) are my 3 big saviours. Now this post is my fourth! Thank u for making me realise that I'm not the only one with an unhealthy obsession over regret. It comes down to feeling u don't deserve happiness...u 'f*** it up somehow' and make mistakes that u don't learn from. I know all this but it's like a switch u can't turn off, it controls u. But I find activity is the best cure. Living I'm the present takes effort but I still acknowledge my obsessions about the past, what I did or didn't do in relationships etc. it's part of who I am...my experience in this lifetime. But I read a great quote once 'you can never regret any decision because it's the only decision u could have made given the Information and mindset you had at the time'. So true, and nice to know people without OCD also border on the feelings and thought patterns we OCD sufferers experience. Even writing on this blog is like a compulsion ritual for me ;)
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