The same dreams over and over

Ok it has taken me some guts to post this so I hope someone can help.
I keep having dreams of being shut in my first house with Mother. I don't really consider it a nightmare it just makes it difficult for me to forget the passed. I had these dreams as long as I can remember. But since I excaped I keep having dreams that I'm still there and I can't get out. The things that happen in them are different and I don't have that dream every night. Does anyone know how to make them go away?

Hi. So what worked for me when I had this problem was to imagine how I would like the dream to go just before I went to sleep. Imagine every detail you have dreamed before but include you very simple way to solve the problem.
For example. I used to have this dream where I was in a car with my Mom. I was in the back seat, one of my kids was beside me. My mom was driving and my other child was in the front beside her. She would drive off the road and we all would crash and die.
I was helpless in the back seat to stop her. My solution?
I recreated the dream before I went to bed several times with the same solution. We all had seat belts on except her.
When I had the dream again, that very option became real and my kids and I survived.
The idea is that give your brain a new option or solution. Your brain remembers it, even when you are not conscious.
I had a lot of nightmares in my time. They all meant something. Figuring out what they meant helped.
If you try this, let me know how it goes. I have posted other things that worked for me here too. Happy to do so again if it might give you some relief!
Sleep Sweet,
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Hi Hubert,
I am sorry you keep having these bad dreams.

Maybe the dream is telling you something your subconscious is aware of? I don't know anything about symbolism in dreams, but perhaps it could mean that emotionally you are still trapped in your past or childhood, or have unresolved issues with your mother? Maybe it refers to your mother still having influence over you, and that you feel you cannot get away? So whilst you may have escaped physically, some part of you is still trapped?

Perhaps talking about these issues will help you tackle the problem, and then maybe the dreams will stop by themselves?

I saw a documentary on sleep disorders once. In it there was the story of a woman who had been violently raped by a stranger. She kept replaying the attack in her nightmares, and woke-up each day feeling awful.

With a therapist, she was able to change her dreams. Rather than recounting the event as it happened, she learnt to be less passive in her nightmares. So instead of becoming a victim, she dreamt that she yelled for help. Little by little she managed to change the dreams, until she was physically attacking the would-be rapist and getting away unharmed. Once she conquered her dreams in this way, she apparently stopped having them.

I've never tried such a thing myself, but it might be worth a try. Maybe to get it to work you'd have to practice recalling and changing the dreams whilst you're awake - like daydreaming. See if you change the script to make it a more positive dream.

Thankyou guys for your responces. I will try practicing them as soon as I can.
It makes me feel better knowing that people have found a way to change there dreams.
@Platypus. I had many problems with Mother but there is nothing I can do. I don't remember where she lives or anything else to contact her. I don't want to contact her either. She didn't even try to find me when I ran away. She was all I knew for most of my life and now when I think about it I bearly knew her at all. Not even her real name.

Hey Hubert,

I'm sorry your mother has not been there for you.

Although you may not be able to do anything to change your past experiences with your mother, you may be able to change how you feel about these experiences.

Could it be your feelings that are causing you have to these dreams?
Maybe if you talk out your feelings with someone, it will help you to change your dreams?

Keep in touch, it sounds like Onebravegirl has experience with this kind of issue and has good advice for you. (I didn't see her reply when I wrote mine. )

Aww Platypus! I am so sorry. I am all over this place here lately and I am so sorry I missed your thread! Where is it?.
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onebravegirl wrote:I am so sorry. I am all over this place here lately and I am so sorry I missed your thread! Where is it?.

Oh I was meaning this thread One. So no need to apologise!
What I meant was that I replied to Hubert above before I realised that you had already replied to him.

It seems like we had similar suggestions, but I like your reply better because you have been through this problem before. (Whereas I have only heard about it on TV!) I was trying to suggest to Hubert that if he has more questions/problems that you may be able to give him some tips. (Whereas I am not so knowledgeable.)

OK, cool and thanks. I spent 15 minutes looking through your post history trying to find a thread where you had sleeping issues.
How you doing Hubert?
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Hello again guys.
@Onebravegirl. I have to thank you sooo much for your help. I tried your way of imagining the dream before I fell asleep the last couple nights. What happened in my dream last night was amazing. It started as usual with me in the house and wondring where Mother was. I could hear her walking up to my door screaming. But before I went to sleep I imagined having the keys to all the locks in the house.
I locked my door and she couldn't get in. Then I unlocked the window and FLEW outside!! It was one of the most unbelieveable feelings I ever had. Thank you thank you thank you. My nightmare got turned into something amazing.

I am SO Happy for you! Your being able to fly, made me tear up! What a fantastic solution you came up with!
Well done Hubert, WELL DONE!
Big Hug,
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