Hi all. I had a request to explain a technique or two that worked for me so Here I go...
I suffered miserably from Night Terrors and Insomnia for four years. I was in therapy at the time as well and after some trail and error, this is what I came up with that helped the most.
My worst nightmares were about my Parents chasing me and a Huge Grizzly bear chasing me. Common theme...being chased and life in danger.
I'll tell you about The Grizzly Bear Dreams. This Huge Bear could somehow follow me where ever I ran. Into houses, shopping malls-anywhere. Just before he would attack, I would wake up screaming.
I decided that I needed to try bringing something small from the Real World into my dream with me. Something that could protect me. (At first I tried imaginary things like a grenade to blow him up. Didn't help much, soon he learned to duck.) So I chose my Mexican Horse Blanket. Before I went to sleep, I would recall the most common details of the dream-the end where I was about to be Attacked. I decided to replay the dream in my head but have the blanket with me and use it as a shield like an impenetrable cloak.
Not realistic but in dream world the impossible seems possible right? I did my best to imagine the Bear pounding on the outside of the blanket until he was Exhausted and would leave. Me safe inside.
The blanket worked because it kind of grounded me into the real world and helped me remember that this was just a dream while dreaming.
After a while though, the Bear became stronger and I lost faith in bringing the blanket with me. Time for a new strategy. At this point I was SO worn out from not sleeping properly I though I was going to loose my mind. I think I was really Pissed off at not being able to sleep because of the Damn Bear. So one night I was dreaming the the Bear was running after me and I just stopped. I turned around and Yelled "WHAT DO YOU WANT?!!!!". The bear stopped too. He sat down and said he had a thorn in his paw. I took it out and he left. ? .
I went to my Therapist the next day and told her about it. She smiled and said "You faced your fears in life while in session here. You faced your Grizzly".
Our nightmares are our Grizzlies guys. What the fear in your dreams are, will depend on what you need to face in reality.
Its not simple or easy ,but if you can figure out what significance the theme has, in comparison to what you are dealing with /or failing to deal with in life you may find the key to making the dreams go away.
I had to do this with other types of nightmares I had as well. This is just one technique that I used that helped. But Changing one small detail so that I could tolerate the nightmare helped every time. Taking back the power-- by bringing in to the dream something that gave me the edge rather than my attacker.
I hope this helps someone.
If you keep on doing what you've always done,
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