Atrium wrote:She hasn't talked to me in over a year. My life actually got better without her in it. I am the happiest I've been in years.
I'm not looking to break her silent treatment. I want her to see that her silent treatment hasn't pusnished me as she intends it to.
She has turned some of our weak-needy-codependent family members against me. While my sister hasn't said a word to me, the weak-codependent-narc suck ups have sent me nasty emails telling me how awful I am.
While I can handle the silent treatment from my sister, my ego can't handle others accusing me of things I didn't do. And I can't stand disloyalty--even from weak idiots. I would've left my sister alone if she hadn't up the ante.
Now Narc sister feels awesome because she has the numbers and people to do her bidding. And she has gotten me frozen out. She has taken away my support system thinking this will prompt me to apologize to her to appease everyone to get back into the family fold. Because what she ultimately wants is for me to get back to my job of pumping her up. (this has been the cycle through my life.)
It's not going to happen this time. But I need a strategy. I need to hone my own Narc skills. Her currency is rejection. I want her to know that she can isolate me all she wants I will still REJECT HER.
If you were her, how could someone stick it to you so you felt it and got the message for good. Be honest.