I met this girl back in april and our first date was going down to the beach. when we met she was very charming and was telling me how well we have clicked and stuff. However, I paid for everything as she had no money. at the beginning she said her relationships didnt work because they wanted marriage and kids and she said "Well I liked them LOL. Just not too much. Like I said, I don't let my barriers down and I like to go slow and stuff" and "And then they wanted to get married and have kids and $#%^ and I'm not down for that." she later conradicted that and said they cheated. she said her dad cut the finger tips of her ex that cheated on her, yet when she told him i made her cry, he didnt do or said nothing when i was next to him, which isnt consistent with with that kind of personality. she lies about guys she sleeping at, like when she was with me she went to bristol to record music and since then has never produced the CD and whilst there her BBM status said she was at a bar with her male friend. yesteday she said she had her money stopped for going college cause she didnt like the people there as they were foreign, yet jobcentre doesnt pay for that kind of course that lasts only 4 weeks, and that kind of course is a 3 day course not a 4 week course becuase my mate had done it. she says she hasnt seen her mum for 3 years and hates her yet bank statements get sent to her mums house. she said her dad hits her, yet she seems close to him and moved in with him when homeless. he didnt hit me when i saw him for making her cry. when i bought her a £180 camera and i said you are using me she just laughed as though its funny and said im being stupid, she seemed to not care what she does to people. she said she had a car but had to sell it cause her licence was revoked and said it was a sports car and said she was a fact driver, yet when i was in the over taking lane she would panic and ask me to move into the middle lane, its not consistent with a racer... she also wanted additional driving lessons, even though can apparently drive, seems another lie.
cheated was telling me for the last 2 months she was with me and there was no one else, said she wanted to move in with me and planned a future, only to go off with another guy. even when she put in a relationship with him on facebook she would still claim he was a friend. and even though she was with this new boyfriend, she wanted me to take her to bristol to drop her off at her friends, which shows she has intentions of cheating on him too. when I confront her over her lies she goes into a rage and pulls my hair and punches me in the face and cheat and tries to smash my head against the window when im driving, and she seems really defensive about her lies. she also cant look me in the eyes and seems fidgety when telling the "truth."
she complains about everything. yesterday she liked the weather, then hated it was too hot, moaning at people for getting in her way, moaning about too many people on her course (above), moaning about not getting paid or money stopped. moaning she has no money and no food. couple of weeks ago, we were in a cab and asked to go to a location with the same name as the shopping centre and he took us five mins away to a river, she went mad and was looking to continously argue with the cab driver even though he didnt charge extra and apologised and was very belittling and called him a racist mark (which i wont repeat).
she manipulates, emotionally blackmails, causes scenes in public if i say what she says doesnt make sense or something she doesnt like she raises her voice and gets hostile and asks if i want to cause a scene. when i did try and leave she manipulated me into staying as though she didnt want to be abandoned, yet has discarded me. since i have questioned her lies, manipulation, violence etc, she has become distant and hostile and indifferent and discarded me. she cheats and seems to flirt alot on facebook with "just friends" in a sexual way, and like i said, seems to have cheated on ner boyfriend already. she has moved locations half a dozen times, shes has moved from london to newcastle, to hull, to leeds, to london, and now reading. the time i have known her and from what she has said she has never had a fixed address, she just seems to sleep on friends sofas (probbaly uses them) and seems financially broke, hence used me for clothes, money, deposit for a place to live, food shopping etc, and it would appear she uses her new boyfriend cause she has no money and he seems to buy currys, wine, ice cream and watch movies together. her money she gets £55 a week only covers her rent, but i believe her dad bails her out all the time because she said he does to her sister as well, and to me i dont think he would without the other. she also goes to guys places alot, and i think for sex, which i believe is Narcissistic suplly as i believe she is a somatic narcissist, and seems to love attention on her facebook because she alsways loves the attention of people commenting how gorgeous she looks. I also think she is a somatic because image seems important to her, she said she was ashamed of my image and so was her friends, and never introduced me to them, except at a club oince and thats cause i paid for drinks. she even told her distant friend we were dating, but close ones we were friends, her friend in the car seemed in on the lie to me as well. she is in a band and want to become famous, but cant play guitar. her new boyfriend, coincidently, is in a band and going places and has a support base and CAN play guitar, so it may be again, for utility, and with the " i dont like people too much" sounds plausable.
she accused me of sexually assualting her when we was in bedding together and i was trying to get intimate with her as her boyfriends, yet sleeps with others and cheats.and when we were driving i mentioned an ex girlfriend and she punched me and said " are you tying to fu**ing make me jealous or what." then her mood changed and started to make a joke and said that woman is hot (sarcasm) and i pointed out an ACTUAL hot woman and she went mad and punched me again and said " i cant believe you just said that with your girlfriend in the car." and another time i mentioned a girl she said " i will point out hot guys then as well to see how you like it " however, there are times when she shows empathy, compassion. like for instance was concerned and crying when i was injured, it would appear she regressed cause she went hysterical as though she was reliving something. she phoned hospital when I was in hospital to see how I was. she cried when I said she was cheating and said it was getting her down. also when she was sad once she said she was fat/ugly and she should just die and all guys treat her like ****, which is odd cause shes the one doing it. she says her relationships have lasted minimum 2 years. i cant see how with the person she is. sounds like another lie.
finally, when with her her emotions seems so fake, like theres no one there. when you look into her eyes there no feeling, no emotions, just robotic like. the only emotion she has is charm, good (temporay) mood and anger, and an attitude problem. she uses people, manipulates, so shows lack of empathy and compassion, and the crying in the student accommadatiom when i was injured now makes me think that was fake. she also said when she moved to reading she was getting rid of her old friends (to her they are bad people) and making new ones, and from what I have read about narcissism and friendships, that REALLY sounds like a typical narcissistic trait. apparently its to not get caught out or people to see the real fake her. anyone have opinions?