funky wrote:Sorry to go sideways with this, but what always interests me, is, do narcissists believe that if they had not had 'problematic' childhoods, they would have had a full range of emotions?
Although, obviously, they are different conditions, sociopathy and schizoidism seem to have strong genetic components, and people with these PDs lack emotions.
I know that some narcissists, including me, don't believe that their upbringing was particularly 'problematic'. Maybe some elements of my upbringing disordered my mind in a narcissistic way, I don't know, but I don't think that I would have been fully emotional, whatever my upbringing.
I also do not think my upbringing was particularly problematic. I can look back and pick out specific things that my father did, though, or ways that he has acted that promoted narcissism in me, but before this year i never saw my childhood as much different than anyone elses.
It bothers me when my friends talk about their parents getting angry at them, because listening to their story i can tell their parents love them. There is a difference between blaming and shaming, and during childhood it can be very subtle and hard to recognize. Looking back, though, my dad would shun me for doing things he didn't expect his angel son to do (even if he does the same $#%^), and he would give me the silent treatment instead of telling me why i shouldn't have done what i did.