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Narcissists and pregnancy

Postby Dats***Cray » Mon Jul 16, 2012 1:06 am

Firstly hi to all who are reading, thanks in advance for any advice/opinions.
I'm just trying to extract myself from a 'relationship' with an N guy, it goes without saying this is painful, exhausting and i'm not having the best will power about it, but the reason for this particular post is that I may be pregnant. Ive told him this although he was aware its a possibilty already (I'll try to make this succint apologies if i ramble)

At the moment he's giving me silent treatment, its obvious that our 'relationship' wont be sustainable, he's said he'll call me to discuss this situation, arrange to meet, i'm of the mind that if i'm pregnant it would be signing myself and any child up for a lifetime of horrible drama, so purely in a logical sense i'd not want to continue the pregnancy. (please spare moral judgement here, i'm already aware what an idiot i've been)

He has always spoken and acted as if children would be an extension of his amazing and superior DNA, lipservice to it not being ideal in our situation, but more generally he seems into it in a wierd way... I get a distinct sense he would be angry if his offspring were not welcomed like the second coming.

SOO in conclusion i'm a little scared he may turn very nasty if i dont continue with the pregnancy, or maybe i'm worrying for no reason and he really couldnt care less, i'm wary of meeting him and unsure how to proceed, simultaneously i'm worried about any kind of smear campaign he might start now that i've visibly woken up to what he is and am trying to extract myself. I'd be grateful for an 'informed' opinion on his possible mindframe, of course I know people are all different but there can seem to be pretty strong thought patterns common to N's (In general i'm also interested in a 'pyschological' sense, what are the general thoughts of N men about pregnancy/children.

(of course i'm aware again that another mans feelings only apply to him, but maybe you have ideas on 'decoding' the impression he's giving me)

Thanks if you got to the end of that :?
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Re: Narcissists and pregnancy

Postby coloroftruthisgray » Mon Jul 16, 2012 11:50 am

The only thing I'm going to say that it is your body and your choice to give birth or not , because you will be the baby's mother and you will take care of it all your life (first financially then emotionally).

Think very thoroughly and hard about this decision. A baby is going to grow up to be a human being , you will be creating and shaping a human's life , think thoroughly.

That's the only advice I'll give , because my mother gave birth just because she could.
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Re: Narcissists and pregnancy

Postby awakenow » Mon Jul 16, 2012 1:55 pm

Why not just tell him you aren't pregnant? That it was a false alarm? Then he'll have no idea that you terminated the pregnancy (if you are indeed pregnant).

I don't think anyone can say if this man wants kids except him. It sounds like he's already said that. If you are pregnant and terminate it and he finds out, it could get very nasty. There's no guarantee of that, but it could.

Again, just tell him, quickly, that you aren't pregnant. That will end all of it.
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Re: Narcissists and pregnancy

Postby BlueFlower » Sun Jul 22, 2012 5:15 am

Your N may be "into" your pregnancy "in a weird way" because he anticipates this could mean extra supply and drama-fodder.

As far as actually nuturing and taking care of a child, Ns aren't interested catering to the day-to-day demands of another human. You'd be on your own.

Children of Narcs grow up to have major issues. You would be forever trying to ward off/undo the damage that will be inflicted on your child by a mentally unstable adult.

One N I knew got his gf pregnant, insisted she have the baby, then denied ever knowing this girl. He left her high and dry, shunned his own kid and moved 2 states away. Probably the best thing for that baby, tho.
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Re: Narcissists and pregnancy

Postby xabilis » Sun Jul 22, 2012 6:17 am

i was in a sauna with a beautifull girle and iwas complepnating here on here tits
she sed they were this good cause she didn't breastfeed
tipicle narc
i"m sure she loves here kid wut she wants here breasts the remain the way they are more
(compromised empathy at work)
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