Fifty Shades of Grey

I have read the first book and am in the process of reading the second, though currently taking a long break from it . It's really poorly written - in comparison with it 'Twilight' series reads like Shakespeare.

I don't think the main protagonist Christian Gray is a narcissist. First of all, his family loves him - including parents, sister and brother. Not typical for narcs. Secondly, he appears to care about women he used to sleep with, though he is not interested in seeing them anymore - again, narcs devalue and discard, and that's the end of it. He is capable of having long-term relationships (e.g., with his former older lover) and he seems to deeply care about Ana, though in his own special way .

I do think that many who were attracted to a narc in real life, can see a parallel with this book in the sense how someone may feel irresistibly drawn to someone who is bad for them. The dilemma is whether to stay in a relationship that is harmful for you and suffer or break free and lose 'love' or 'spark'. I haven't read the trilogy fully, but it looks like Ana leaves Christian in the end.

Also, is anyone a sadist and care to openly talk about it? I, for one, am, but i have never gone out of my way to a BDSM party or anything yet to really explore this interest. I have tried webcams though and i like being told what to do and humiliated by the mistresses.

That's masochism not sadism.

I am a switch. Who doesn't enjoy a bit of both worlds.

I can't wait to read this garbage.
I can tell I'm going to love it.
Yesssssssss.
XOXO

Makky wrote:That's masochism not sadism.

I am a switch. Who doesn't enjoy a bit of both worlds.

Thanks for the correction. I could see myself getting into something i didn't sign up for saying i'm a sadist in collarme.com. Although i have never tried sadism, i think it would be fun as long as the other person is really into it and won't go telling on me for abuse. I need to find a mature women who knows herself and what she wants so that i can explore these in real time.

Makky, have you ever gone to a BDSM event of something of the sort? Or, actively seeked a partner strictly for the experience?

awakenow wrote:Go to youtube and search for Gilbert Godfried reading the book. It's very funny, and will show you how ridiculous the book actually is.

Hahahahaha! Was that an SNL skit or something? Yea it sounds ######6 ridiculous. LOL @ the Indian girl at the end, "holy $#%^ this is hot".

TiredOfRepression21 wrote:

Makky wrote:That's masochism not sadism.

I am a switch. Who doesn't enjoy a bit of both worlds.

Thanks for the correction. I could see myself getting into something i didn't sign up for saying i'm a sadist in collarme.com. Although i have never tried sadism, i think it would be fun as long as the other person is really into it and won't go telling on me for abuse. I need to find a mature women who knows herself and what she wants so that i can explore these in real time.

Makky, have you ever gone to a BDSM event of something of the sort? Or, actively seeked a partner strictly for the experience?

No but I think it's much easier for me to be a sadist than masochist. I'm far too paranoid for a stranger to tie me up.

Yea, i would only let someone tie me up if they were a professional.

I like more of the humiliation aspect. I feel like a lot of my mask is lowering myself to let others feel comfortable, and then unleashing my narc confidence when the time is right and there is something i want. So i guess being put down only allows me to jump higher when needed

Ladies, if you really want to read a sexy book, read 'My Secret Garden', by Nancy Friday, a collection of women's fantasies. Really good.

On a lighter note, the novels of Jilly Cooper are pretty sexy, in a far more innocent way.

hello makky...I'm pretty new to the forum, but I am a (sadist) Domme (around 50). Had my own dungeon, and been in the lifestyle for about 3 yrs.

funky wrote:Ladies, if you really want to read a sexy book, read 'My Secret Garden', by Nancy Friday, a collection of women's fantasies. Really good.

On a lighter note, the novels of Jilly Cooper are pretty sexy, in a far more innocent way.

Funky. If you like them you would love The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy. It is written by A.N. Roquelaure who is actually Anne Rice.

Nothing innocent about it though. Very much BDSM. Kinky, sexy and very hot.

Why thank you, reflection, I might indulge myself!