I have a problem that I've just discovered - a problem I need to fix.
I'd been talking to some distant relative for a while online, and she is simply one of the most charming people I've communicated with for a long while. We have quite a bit in common, and typically she is willing to offer me advice when I feel the need to ask.
Here's my problem: I just now saw a picture of her, and she wasn't attractive. I imagined her as being so, and it shouldn't matter as she's my relative, but I find myself disillusioned, so to speak. Sort of second-guessing my opinion of her as a person.
I assume I do this with other people as well, but perhaps more subtly.
My question is, how do I physically get past that to get back the positive image I had of said person, and ignore the impulse to judge? Has anyone else had this happen?