I am out socially all the time and it seems a constant that someone is always offended by what I say. Very often individuals seem absolutely crushed and I usually feel one of three things when I can see they have taken dismay to what I have said/done..
Disgust for that person for being so sensitive or confusion that I said/did anything to offend. Feeling bad because I apparently did something wrong and it is bothering me that they won't tell me what I did. (I would at least expect they can tell me, so I don't intentionally do it again with someone else)
To me, my mind can't comprehend actually saying/doing something offensive or with hurt to anyone intentionally.. yet for some reason I come off and have been told I am very abrasive as an almost constant.
People that know me have their guard up at all times with me it seems. While yes, I feel that I am excellent socially, it is an almost form of Asperger's in that I really don't understand why people get offended, when I am simply kidding around with them.
I can tell the things I say and do hurt many people I encounter, when I see the expression on their face, but if they do not mention it, I almost never think anything of it and don't realize it unless they mention it. And when they do, I as said above either get disgusted or confused with said individual.
Nons seem to think we are always manipulating, playing some type of game. It isn't game. We are simply acting out what feels right for us and many nons take that as us playing games with them. They can't put their rationale mind behind it, because they simply don't have the wiring to relate to our wiring, as we cannot relate to theirs. It's not done in mean spirit.. I'm just being me.
Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent's fate. - Sun Tzu