margharris wrote:Recovery starts the moment you understand you are worth it and so are we all. We all need to heal something. When you realize you can't control life you give up this focus. Then you can turn your attention to valuing you.
This i'd agree with when it comes to any PD. The only bit you need to realise about being worth it at that stage, is that *you are*.
margharris wrote:Everything you say and do becomes a reflection of who you are.
Just for the record, not for a person recovering from NPD. They'd become far less focused on what they say and do and more focused on what was going on around them. Being overly self-conscious isn't helpful or healthy, or "enlightened". Being aware of your own actions is helpful, but that's something different.[/quote]
Sunnydays wrote:You have already made a significant step … because you have gained some consciousness that is very, very precious. I only wish my wife could tell me this and it would give me all the courage to carry on.
You wish your wife would say being conscious of what is going on is a big step and means a lot? (It does and is.) - Being conscious of what's going on with PD of any sort gives you the power to begin to understand it, so as you become more comfortable with the things you're exploring in yourself you can let things develop naturally by allowing perspectives to change when you want them to and when you are ready.
Sunnydays wrote:The point is, unless you re-live your childhood, the chance for you to be strictly “normal” is slim. The society expects you to be an adult and would not let you be a child. I would suggest seeking spiritual growth as well as professional help. There is a way …. you can find if you really want to.
Many people with PD are constantly trying to re-live their childhoods differently in a variety of ways. While people's childhood experiences do colour their perception, the difference with PD is that those things fail to be resolved, and we try to resolve them continuously in unhelpful ways until we can break that cycle.
You don't need to re-live your childhood literally - though you do need to take time over "becoming an adult fully" in whatever way you eventually choose to, (no set rules about how you do that.) what needs to happen is more like an emotional review of how you deal with things you didn't deal with.
That's hard to do without a therapist, you do most of the work, but in some cases the therapist just
gives you outside perspective from an unbiased person who isn't personally involved with you that help you work through things. (Not all therapy is transference-based, and different therapists work in different ways.) though being ready to try therapy and finding the right one is also individual.
Normal ? I don't know what that is. Healthy is possible though.