Destroying the Frustrating Object
Other narcissists "choose" to destroy the object that gives them so much grief by provoking in them feelings of inadequacy and frustration. They display obsessive, blind animosity and engage in a compulsive acts of rivalry [u]often at the cost of self-destruction[/u] and self-isolation.
"This hydra has many heads. From scratching the paint of new cars and flattening their tyres, [u]to spreading vicious gossip[/u], to media-hyped arrests of successful and rich businessmen, to wars against advantaged neighbours.
The stifling, condensed vapours of envy cannot be dispersed.
They invade their victims, their rageful eyes, their calculating souls, they guide their hands in evil doings and dip their tongues in vitriol...
(The envious narcissist's existence is) a constant hiss, a tangible malice, the piercing of a thousand eyes. The imminence and immanence of violence.
The poisoned joy of depriving the other of that which you don't or cannot have."
............... The poisoned joy of depriving the other.
And how many of you would embrace a relationship, open your home, your heart, and place your trust in, if you knew 100% that the "other"
harbored destructive feelings of passive aggressive pathological envy
toward you, undermined you and derived poisoned joy
from depriving you of happiness, and the necessities of life ?
The Lords Prayer starts with "Otche Nash"
meaning "Our Father" and ends with "spaci nas vid lukavoho"
meaning "Save us, Protect us from the Envious one
". AMEN. "I knoweth what I am doing"
Anyone who's been to hell and back compliments of the "Envious One"
is not likely to walk around with a sign on their forehead that reads: "Mark" Envious Ones welcome here
Some people never learn from their painful experiences. I'm a fast learner.
It's not the victim of the Envious one that needs to change, it's the Envious one that needs to find healing. Healing is NOT going to come with an apology BUT
Before you can "Fix" something, you need to acknowledge that there's a part of your life that's broken and DENIAL
usually prevents this from happening. I'm willing to work with the Envious One
but if the Envious one doesn't acknowledge that she has a problem and is NOT
open and willing to work with me on the problem that brought us to this ugly and painful end, then ........... there's not much I or anyone can do .... is there ?
Instead of the APOLOGY BUT: I'd rather hear Mama I'm willing
to do what ever it takes
to repair the relationship. This is where the journey has to begin.
Mother of 2