Yes I do think a proportion of narcissists are born rather than made.
My mother is a narcissist, she was not abused. In fact I visited her at Christmas she was more than happy to reminisce about her childhood, she talks about it fondly.
Her mother was a kind woman, her father was almost certainly a narc. He did not have a great deal to do with the children (1940s) that was 'woman's work'.
He was described by my sister who remembers him as "a strange kettle of fish". My mother does not have anything bad to say about her father, she seemed to maybe admire him even his odd ways she can laugh about.
I asked my sister why she thought mother was so cold, she said mother takes after her father. I think she's right.
My mother has no empathy. She was a cold, cruel, self absorbed, 'mother' I was neglected, an invisible child, the scapegoat as was my eldest sister, middle sister is the golden child.
The idea that narcs have always been abused and are deeply unhappy beings is not true. My mother is happy, content, has never been depressed. She's just managed to inflict all that c##p on everyone else.
A friend of mine, a truly lovely girl, friendly, vivacious, attractive, slim, blonde married this strange bloke. I don't know, why nobody can understand it.
Anyway 10 years on she wants a divorce. The husband is a somatic narcissist a real strange chap obsessed with his body, fashion. He thinks he looks good, like ultra trendy, but actually he looks real odd.
They have two children both boys. One is 'normal' and has always protected his mum against his dad who could be jealous and violent (n rage). The other son seems to be like his dad a narc, he would hit his mum, like dad did. One lad takes after mum, one after dad.
There is definitely a genetic predisposition.
They are now separated.
The somatic father's behavior is very disturbing. For instance, when he sees the boys he has shown them his body asking them to "admire him". My friend is quite rightly trying to stop any unsupervised access.
My ex NPD husband did have a abusive childhood his emotional needs were not met by his N parents, but I do suspect a genetic predisposition there too. He had five siblings, four are Ns.
Narcissists can be born, it is not always caused by abuse.
I would think inheriting a couple of genes on the Aspergers/Autism spectrum could create a child with NPD symptoms. The checklist for Aspergers contains a lot of narcissistic behaviours.
I think there is some truth in this.
A ex partner of mine has a son, he is hard to like I did try, I really did. He is a only child. Very young for his years, self absorbed and lacking 'emotional intelligence' fidgety, clumsy, greedy, selfish, intelligent and very attention seeking. The kids at school named him Joe 'no mates' Smith as everyone disliked him. He told his dad, dad was upset for him, but he just thought it was funny I think he was sorta proud of it.
I cannot decide, if he is Aspergers, Narcissistic, or maybe has 'Only Child Syndrome'. He seems to have no empathy.
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