I appreciate your flexibility, Smilexx.
This NPD forum has long been a relatively healthy mix of Nons and NPD'ers.
The Nons generally are respectful of others, while at the same time challenging of some of the statements/positions held by narcissistic members.
The narcissistic members generally tell the truth about their behaviors and ways of thinking.
It isn't often that I've seen the two groups attack each other or generate a dysfunctional atmosphere.
When that seems to be happening, there are usually members who step into the discussion and add their perspectives and things settle down.
This forum does a good job, I think, of self-regulating.
For me, it is a refreshing change from sooo many of the other "NPD victim" boards where members are encouraged to remain in their angry victimized state by a never-ending exchange of tales of woe without moving eventually away from 'them' (ie. "my" narcissist) and putting their attention onto themselves to heal and grow. Here, I often see narcissists facilitating a Nons own healing, even if it is simply to reiterate the truth about how someone with NPD sees the situation.
For me, the value of Psychforums is the interplay between those with the condition/disorder themselves, and those who are trying to understand the disorder. Both sets of people are usually also trying to understand themselves as well.
I really appreciate that I can put up a thread titled "NPD Mother", for example, and not have the narcissists tear it to pieces here. Infact, not only do they not do that, some even learn about themselves or about how some aspect of their behavior might be similar to what the Nons are describing, and they post to chime in and agree, or disagree, or explain, or clarify, or call us on our overgeneralizations, etc.
I don't like what I see happening in some of the other Cluster B forums, where one group or the other is lobbying to segregate the other group into a few designated threads. To me, the value of Psychforums in reduced in those forums.
Those who cannot play nice here will also have difficulty playing nice in their real lives.
These forums are places to learn how to do that better... for both Nons and PD'ed folks.