This may be sketchy because I'm currently drunk lol.
Well I went to the work event sans date and my N was there and quite visible. He has cut his hair and it looks awful. REALLY awful. I arrived late and a little tipsy because I had dinner with my best friend beforehand. Sat next to a good-looking blonde guy who I chatted with most of the night. My ex came over twice to tell us that we should move our cars because they were towing everyone parked next to the white building (every building in the area is white). I had a good time, drank some beer, met some new friends lala. Everything went swimmingly - I just ignored him, laughed, got a little drunk and had a blast. I noticed, however, out of the corner of my eye, that he was sitting most of the night alone with a rather plain frizzy-haired brunette.
So - I get in the car and a friend calls me on the phone to chat and I shared my recent triumph. He then proceeds to tell me that my ex N is now living with the plain girl who has moved from OUT OF STATE to be with him! Oh my. Then, my best friend calls me and tells me she and her husband have known this all along but didn't tell me because they thought I'd be upset!
The thing is, I wouldn't have been half as afraid if I'd known this. I thought all his negative energy was focused on me, but turns out it's most likely focused on telling his sob story to the new girlfriend - all about his evil ex, etc. I am FREE!!! I am rather worried about this new girl though - anyone who would move across the country to live with a new guy after only knowing him a few months is a little messed up. Sounds like codependent fresh meat to me. But I am not responsible for the other hearts he breaks and there's nothing I can do anyway. I need to focus on healing me.
Not sure how I feel about all this. I'm no longer afraid to go to work events, so that's a triumph. But a new girlfriend? Already? I never thought that would happen.