I think you may be misinterpreting her actions.
No offense.....but we are on a personality disorder forum. And its VERY likely that the people here had mothers and dads who, under the context of HELPING, LOVING, and BEING CONCERNED about their kids.....really just wanted to control them.
Children are NOT extentions of their parents. Children are SEPARATE human beings.....with thoughts, needs, feelings, wants, and desires of their own. These things do not deserve LESSOR *consideration* just because a parent is a parent.
If you want to be alone go to your room and shut your door. It's her house, and it would be nice if you . . considered her.
We read the same post right?
I thought I read that the need for privacy was EXPLAINED to the mother.....BEFORE there was in fact any need for privacy.
I don't know.....to me that shows a LOT of consideration. To me a lack of consideration would be just yelling at mom at the time of the incident and then going and slamming the door in her face.
I also read that mom was told that her NEEDS would be addressed when the adult child had the time to collect her thoughts and was in the proper frame of mind to address the mother properly.
Now again....seems like a heck of lot of consideration went into explaining all that to the mom. Seems like mom had a need....the need to be heard. Seems like the daughter told the mom.....you will be heard, when I can address the issue properly. Not only is mom being considered here....but it also looks as if ALL MOMS NEEDS will be met.
The only thing missing here seems to be the CONSIDERATION for adult childs *need* for privacy.
Mom doesn't have to consider this????
Wow ......why not?
What makes mom so special that the world must stop so she can CONTROL the whole situation to her liking?
What makes mom so special that she doesn't have to CONSIDER anyone but herself?
Honoring ones parent does not mean when a parent says jump you say How high?.
Honoring a parent doesn't mean what a parent wants is ALWAYS right.
Honoring a parent doesn't mean you never question a parents behavior.
If thats what honoring a parent means then .....we have a lot of drug addict parents who are not being honored out there.
In fact if this is what honoring a parent means....then we have a whole lot of parents who do a whole lot of bad things and want their kids to follow suit and they are just not being CONSIDERED at all!
Honoring a parent is respecting their needs. But nowhere is there a commandment that says to honor your parent at your own expense. No where is there a commandment that says to honor your parent and allow your parent to treat you like crap.
If mom really loves her child.....then mom also respects and CONSIDERS the childs needs.
This mother is respecting NOTHING but her own needs.
How is that love? How is that unconditional?
How is that helping the relationship?
Cause I DON'T SEE IT.
Love is MUTUAL. Its not ONE sided. If its one sided ....its not love, its a master slave relationship.
THAT is not what the love between a parent and a child is supposed to be.
Maybe this mom needs to consider whatever she did to mentally SCREW her kid????
Because maybe....she JUST doesn't SEE it herself?????
Maybe....she thinks being a parent is a free for all where you treat your kids like slaves who have to do everything you say, when you say it, and the kid should never raise any objections???
MAYBE......mom thinks a little too highly of herself.......and not highly enough of her kids????
Maybe LOVE is equal, mutual, and CONSIDERATION is supposed to run both ways????
Or you know.......maybe your right......this mom.....shes a real peach and I am just misunderstanding her.......
Wolf in Sheeps clothing.....a lot of moms like that out there....which is why this personality forum is so FULL