Can narcissistic parent cause their children to be borderline?
I now realize my last partner was borderline. His mother was a full blown narc, his father could be violent.
The children of this unfortunate union did not do well, my partner had huge abandonment issues, his brother (scapegoat) is seriously mentally ill. Such a shame because I believe them both to be fundamentally good people. The eldest brother (golden child) has survived fairly well.
I am biased I admit, but I think many mental health problems can be blamed on narcissism. This insidious form of emotional abuse, the lack of empathy, ridicule, invalidation, a unloved child only used for narc supply, that they see as a mere extension of themselves. Its not good.
IMO it is a major cause of depression, anorexia, bulimia, OCD, anxiety, low self esteem, ect.
To be told, as I was that I was rubbish, ugly, fat, stupid, '' that 'no one will ever like you' and 'if it wasn't for you we'd be alright'.
Mother hated me, loathed me, was jealous, of her own daughter!
That one in particular 'If it wasn't for you we'd be alright' Um, read to me 'if I wasn't here they'd be happy, so, I might as well commit suicide'.
It doesn't help that often these parents make sure they look 'perfect' to the outside world, so any attempt to explain the abuse is a waste of time. No one will believe you. You will just be perceived as a bad child.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.