SenseAtLast wrote:There are a few things you should expect and not take personally.
I think the first one may have happened already with him replacing you in his ongoing quest for attention -- called Narcissistic Supply. NPD'ers generally can't bear to be alone, and need constant attention.
He may send you an email like wanderingstar where he projects himself onto you and starts being abusive. I would block his email and sms messages.
He may also try to hoover you back in if he needs attention and can't find it somewhere else. One way of doing that is to agree with everything you said in your e-mail.
Your email is very articulate but it would be interesting to see if it went in one ear and out the other.
Thank you SenseAtLast. The "hoovering" is my concern. I'm definitely going to take your advice. My only concern is that he'll up the ante so to speak. In the past, when he's gone off after one of his tantrums, the more I ignored him the more determined he became to reestablish contact. Of course, this is the first time I have flat out said "I don't want you anymore" (as I said, there have been multiple emails since this one) so perhaps this is it.
The strange thing is the other supply is and has been around, online, for as long as I've known him. I told him months ago I didn't care about her or whatever their thing is. She is, through no fault of her own, utterly clueless about how he conducts himself in his daily life. She absolutely adores him, at least virtually. Of course she's only spent 2.5 days with him in person in real life so he may have kept me around knowing she's not likely to bother with him once she does know him...
I'm not sure the email has gone in one ear... He seems to be rather fixated on it. I keep getting messages from him with all of them attached though I know he deleted it originally. He keeps digging it back up to send new "replies". Anyway, I'm taking your advice. Thank you.