When a girl comes up to me telling me how much she needs my dick, I'll just be irritated and annoyed in 90% of cases because this is precisely something I do not want. I want to force myself on her.
Unreal - can I ask about this?
Why does a woman telling you something like this irritate you? I understand the concept of actually during sex being aggressive and dominant, but doesn't a woman telling you how much she needs you = really good supply. Most women don't go round saying stuff like that lightly to men, so a woman saying that to you indicates how much she wants you.
Because it means that she wants ME. I'm a narcissist, I'm enwrapped in protective layers of illusions. Her wanting me feels like she's implying that she tries to get me out of this protection. Undressing is kind of a symbolical act in this regard.
My current affair is a narcissist. It works with her because I have empathy for her (for the first time in my life - yeah progress!) but any non-narcissistic girl can fück off. I produce illusions. I impress. I come on to her, NOT vice versa. I mean basically, "demanding" anything from me is a dominant act in itself and a threat to my superiority and control.
And I would have thought being strongly sexually desired by a woman would be good supply for a N.
Sure. But if the woman wants me to fulfill this desire, she's putting pressure on me, which is anathema.
Do you have any thoughts on why this particularly isn't supply? What sort of things would a woman say to you in this context that you would find good supply as opposed to irritating?
How to get your N to bang you till you can't walk? Wait till he feels like it. If he has a working penis, it's bound to happen sooner or later, but I doubt there's anything you can do to make it happen faster. Maybe dress provocatively?
Don’t you feel good when you know someone thinks you’re attractive?
I don't care what people think. I feel good when they say I'm attractive, and I don't care whether they're lying because if I can get them to say it it means that I've won anyway. I don't feel good when they want me to do stuff for them.
Unless supply coming from sex isn’t as important to you as supply coming from her having respect for you or her thinking you’re intelligent or skilled at something, etc.??
Supply from sex is her behavior. When she screams and moans and trembles and sweats and pants, that is supply - but essentially this is the ultimate way of telling me that I'm skilled at something, so the dichotomy isn't really there anyway.
Or is it because you’re thinking to yourself that she doesn’t really want ME or isn’t attracted to ME she’s attracted to the illusion I’m presenting to her?
I'm impressed. Spot on. Now I get why it works with my current girl.
so sex to you isn’t ever a way for you to express that you really like your gf or partner or show you care
No. When I want to express that, I cuddle, hug and kiss her. I do that a lot more than fücking her.
or even just for the pure pleasure of it…
I don't think the act in itself is particularly pleasurable, no. The implications of it...
that she’ll “give in” to you and that you had the power to do that and that you can control her?
...are what's awesome about sex.
In general, I guess I can explain it best with a metaphor. Imagine you have a sex doll you use to masturbate. And suddenly this doll comes out of its closet and wants you to have sex with it. (yeah, "it". Know what I mean? A sex partner is "it".) Of course you'll be shocked. Dolls just aren't supposed to act on their own, are they?