IndieMind wrote:Do you feel devalued as a result? Maybe it is less about you, since he states he is still attracted to you sexually/physically, and more about his own problems that prevent sex and affection? Taking it less personally with narcissists is probably safest.
IndieMind wrote:This goes double for sending cards, letters, flowers, anything--I just cannot fathom why it means anything at all.
When a girl comes up to me telling me how much she needs my dick, I'll just be irritated and annoyed in 90% of cases because this is precisely something I do not want. I want to force myself on her.
HappyBusyFun wrote:And I would have thought being strongly sexually desired by a woman would be good supply for a N.
HappyBusyFun wrote:When a girl comes up to me telling me how much she needs my dick, I'll just be irritated and annoyed in 90% of cases because this is precisely something I do not want. I want to force myself on her.
Unreal - can I ask about this?
Why does a woman telling you something like this irritate you? I understand the concept of actually during sex being aggressive and dominant, but doesn't a woman telling you how much she needs you = really good supply. Most women don't go round saying stuff like that lightly to men, so a woman saying that to you indicates how much she wants you.
And I would have thought being strongly sexually desired by a woman would be good supply for a N.
Do you have any thoughts on why this particularly isn't supply? What sort of things would a woman say to you in this context that you would find good supply as opposed to irritating?
Don’t you feel good when you know someone thinks you’re attractive?
Unless supply coming from sex isn’t as important to you as supply coming from her having respect for you or her thinking you’re intelligent or skilled at something, etc.??
Or is it because you’re thinking to yourself that she doesn’t really want ME or isn’t attracted to ME she’s attracted to the illusion I’m presenting to her?
so sex to you isn’t ever a way for you to express that you really like your gf or partner or show you care
or even just for the pure pleasure of it…
that she’ll “give in” to you and that you had the power to do that and that you can control her?
unreal wrote:Now I get why it works with my current girl.
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