BarrierReef wrote:I would say it's possible, to a point. I had an ex who, in an effort to understand and ultimately help me, stuck by me after I sabotaged the relationship. For a while, it was a thrill to have someone I had mistreated come back for more, but that was eventually outweighed by the hassle of having to fake personal growth with a suspecting partner.
Maybe it's just me, but I always liked to be around to observe my effect after things were done.
This happened once to me too. (Not that she "suspected" me though... just the growth). Initially, it really annoyed me. But then I thought "Hey, I guess she's got thick skin and she always talks to me when I want to talk, so why not keep her around?" That didn't last very long. She still sends me emails every 2 weeks or so, asking to do something.