I think that giving yourself a year in which to prepare is a wise move. Almost 2 & 1/2 yrs ago my husband and I decided to live separately but remain married. We sold our home, split the equity and each of us bought residences of our own. There have been a few rocky times, but for the most part, in spite of it being an odd arrangement, it has worked well for us. He comes over several times a week to have dinner with me and our son who also lives with me.
For a long time I didn't feel comfortable revealing to my Christian friends that our family had several mental illnesses. Two of our kids have schizophrenia, I have DID, depression..etc and then my husband has some issues going too. Last summer we found a non-denom church which felt like home from the first time we walked in the door. My kids love the youth program and the women's Bible studies have been more than helpful. I did find out that I could open up to a chosen few about mental illnesses and our family.
They have also welcomed my 2 kids who have sz with open arms. I'm so thankful for the people there.
I hope things work out well for you, Ann. Possibly you also will find a place where you can be open with your issues. This site is a great place to start!
Blessed are those
who can give without
remembering, and take