narcs reinvent themselves for supply?

Have you ever noticed if a Narc changes physical or material things all at once when on short or nonexixtent supply? The one I know I have to see publically 2x a week{prefer not to say why].They had just bought a new truck, then less than a year later gets another new one, exact model, but a slight shade darker, got gray contacts for their brown eyes[which, by the way makes them look like a werewolf] & started growing their hair longer. This person is in their 40's . I personally know their latest interest {who was 13 years younger] dumped them. When my friend asked" Why the new truck?" their answer was," It matches my eyes'.

i don't know that i've ever done this. i could imagine another narcissist doing it, though. i tend to slip in and out of different scenes; mostly to break up the monotony of life. and i'll look for supply in any scene i enter. but i don't know that i've ever changed just to get supply. i have a fairly flexible self-image as it is. i tend to stick out in a crowd and use this to my advantage. i'm not much for material things (cars, phones, etc). too much time, energy, and money is required to keep up. a lot of people i know seem to have a new "toy" every time i see them, though.

smilee wrote:Have you ever noticed if a Narc changes physical or material things all at once when on short or nonexixtent supply? The one I know I have to see publically 2x a week{prefer not to say why].They had just bought a new truck, then less than a year later gets another new one, exact model, but a slight shade darker, got gray contacts for their brown eyes[which, by the way makes them look like a werewolf] & started growing their hair longer. This person is in their 40's . I personally know their latest interest {who was 13 years younger] dumped them. When my friend asked" Why the new truck?" their answer was," It matches my eyes'.

Mine would change everything and anything if his supply was threatened or disappeared - cars, clothes, jobs, where he lived. I had to struggle constantly to stop him uprooting me and the kids. Once he came home and announced that our house was a "dump" and we needed to move. News to me. I liked it and still do, especially now he's not in it.

I think of him as an actor. Whatever role he needs to play, whatever costume he needs to put on or props are required, he'll do it. Everybody he meets is potential audience.

The only thing he could never manage to change was his physical appearance. Over the years he just kept getting flabbier with a big spare tire around his middle. He took up personal training for a while but got in a big fight with his trainer and within months was back to the old level of unfitness. But then, he seems to think he's perennially young and handsome which is an unreal image he has convinced himself he has.

I change all the time when I'm bored. So much so that when I don't see someone for a little while then see them again, they often don't recognise me. I've been told I'm like a chameleon.

I'm especially bad for altering my physical appearance. However, I don't do this because I feel threatened or like supply is running out. I do it because within a few weeks of a certain style I feel I've lost impact and I no longer feel beautiful when I look at myself - so I change to maintain that feeling of self-love.

Nah, I'm pretty stable when looks are concerned. I can wear my favorite jackets for many years and never get bored of them.

The only time I'd change would be either out of boredom or change in order to get someone or something I really wanted and couldn't get (as successfully) without the change. Aside from those two situations, I stay the same.

Nanday, that sounds so familiar.The narc I know WAS a family friend. One family member, who is very muscular , 21 years younger & went to the same gym tried for awhile to give personal pointers on how to get the most from a workout. Well, this narc got mad , they argued & the narc said to me when I asked why they stopped working out together, " No one likes to be controlled".Sad to say they are no longer friends because the arguing seemed to escalate after that.

smilee wrote:Nanday, that sounds so familiar.The narc I know WAS a family friend. One family member, who is very muscular , 21 years younger & went to the same gym tried for awhile to give personal pointers on how to get the most from a workout. Well, this narc got mad , they argued & the narc said to me when I asked why they stopped working out together, " No one likes to be controlled".Sad to say they are no longer friends because the arguing seemed to escalate after that.

My experience with my ex was that he would only accept advice from those he himself decided were worthy - in other words, he picked mentors, always older men or replacement father figures, and very few of those - only 4 as I recall over 30 years. Problem is now that he approaches 60, he's running out of men 20 years older to take on that role. They were always successful business men with forceful personalities. I think he believed if he latched onto them he would absorb some of their power.

As far as advice from everybody else, he took it as a chance to be combative and to win, which was his stated purpose in life.

smilee wrote:Have you ever noticed if a Narc changes physical or material things all at once when on short or nonexixtent supply? The one I know I have to see publically 2x a week{prefer not to say why].They had just bought a new truck, then less than a year later gets another new one, exact model, but a slight shade darker, got gray contacts for their brown eyes[which, by the way makes them look like a werewolf] & started growing their hair longer. This person is in their 40's . I personally know their latest interest {who was 13 years younger] dumped them. When my friend asked" Why the new truck?" their answer was," It matches my eyes'.

Didn't bother reading all the other posts, but yes, it's very much true.

New things that show myself off make me happy, keep me one step above everyone else in the stairway to... haha, no, not heaven, but to being better then you .

As long as my boyfriend and I have been together (a year), he's never reinvented himself. There are, however, many extreme sides to him. He will go out to the bar for months on end with friends, but then decide to be a hermit and condemn those friends for going through life however they go about it. Other times, he'll get on a "lets go nice places" kick and only want to surround himself with classier folk in stuffy establishments.

Often times, it seems like he doesn't know whether to be a hardcore hooligan or an accomplished gentleman...and he can never be both at the same time.