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How do you live with a female Narcissist?

Postby skippers » Sun Sep 16, 2007 6:11 pm

How do you live with a female Narcissist? I haven't seen much information on the female Narcissist, it seems to be a lot more common in men.
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Postby shivers » Mon Sep 17, 2007 3:28 am

very cautiously.
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Re: How do you live with a female Narcissist?

Postby SenseAtLast » Mon Sep 17, 2007 6:46 am

skippers wrote:How do you live with a female Narcissist? I haven't seen much information on the female Narcissist, it seems to be a lot more common in men.

I reckon try answering why would you want to live with a female narcissist. Why would you voluntarily submit to living with any narcissist of either gender?

Matey, my 2c worth, is get out of there before you blink, and find yourself with a mortage, and a kid by accident, and you're stuck for life.
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Postby skippers » Mon Sep 17, 2007 8:17 pm

Luckily it is all over after 2 years. All her lies and deceit at the end caused the break up. Hopefully next time I won't be so naive if I come across anything like this again. There were times when I wanted out because of her actions but my strong love for her tied me in. 6 months after our break up I still miss her and feel tempted to give her a call and have to make myself not do it by reading forums like this.
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Postby Optimist77 » Tue Dec 18, 2007 9:29 am

Give her everything she needs,
Be happy,
Never complain,

DO NOT EVER talk to her about "your" problems.
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Postby Optimist77 » Tue Dec 18, 2007 11:14 pm

If you tell the Narc that you love her, she is secretly laughing at you.

Because loving her the way she is, would show, that you have an abnormal, twisted mind. How can you love somebody, who does not give a toss about you??? Weird...

So, she does understand the concept of love! Knowing what is not what is should be, implies knowing what it is.

Rationalising your love is giving sympathy to an emotionally damaged person.

Living it, is another story. Ignoring her, and forgiving her constantly without any need for appreciation, can turn a good person into a monster. If you react to her cruel behavior, you're dead meat in no time.
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Postby Optimist77 » Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:07 pm

I must rephrase this.

"So, she does understand the concept of love! Knowing what is not what is should be, implies knowing what it is. "


We have have an idea what weightlessness is about, but most of us have never experienced it. Hearing the word "love" and what Non Ns mean by it, can conjure up an abstract thought in the Narc's mind.
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Postby posterboy » Mon Dec 24, 2007 8:04 am

The original poster is asking the wrong question.

The question is: how do you rid your life of a narcissist? They aren't worth living with, so there is no use trying to figure out how.
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Postby PQ » Mon Dec 24, 2007 5:36 pm

posterboy wrote:The original poster is asking the wrong question.

The question is: how do you rid your life of a narcissist? They aren't worth living with, so there is no use trying to figure out how.


The sheer ignorance and foolishness of people amazes me. You rid your life of a narcissist in the same way you have bound your life to it. By personal choices, decisions, and simple thought independent of any emotions or feelings you have pertaining to it.
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Postby Leviathan » Tue Dec 25, 2007 6:01 am

OK I'm really curious to know. What is it about love that allows people to get treated like fools?

I've never been diagnosed as having NPD or any other PD for that matter. But I sincerely believe myself to be a loveless individual. In truth.... I do feel a sense of warmth when I praise (or even think) about myself, but I find it a mystery why people can be suckered into loving others.
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