thanks for the compliment realityhere. interested to hear about you. Have you experienced loneliness as well, what are the results of your efforts to overcome that?
"but it's hard work to make changes in behavior because the therapists can't do that for you"
Yup,aint that the truth. what behaviour changes have you successfully made that gave you the results you wanted & established friendships?
"... But once you do understand your triggers, socializing with others can be managed to an extent"
when you say socializing can be managed to an extent, what results have you achieved.. do you have a social life, social circle/s that are manageable and satisfying to you these days? are you/were you cptsd talking from experience.
Re your hobbies qtn, what to say? of course. I consider having hobbies/interests rudimentary life skills and being able to talk about them & likes/dislikes rudimentary social skills. In other words, it goes without saying, of course I have that covered. I'm interested in what your individual achievements are in developing healthy friendships.. for all this work you suggest, what results (how many friends, acquaintances, networks, close friends or what quality are those relationships) have you got today that you didn't have before you did the work?
hi vertices,
"Do concrete actions that have objective value to others."
some concrete examples, especially form your would life would be appreciated to bring this statement to life. Did you struggle to do this yourself as an introvert or are you an extrovert, easily focused on garnering attention/value from lots of people much of the time?
Some "I" statements would be welcome friends! I'm interested in your experiences (to be hoenst, I probably already know all the theory).