by greavesy1984 » Thu May 05, 2016 11:17 am
HelloKitty - thanks for your reply.
As you are unable to get your claws into him, as it were, isn't this helping to prolong the outing of your narcissistic behaviour? Therefore helping the relationship last longer by not encountering problems?
My ex is in a new long distance relationship and I am confused as to whether the long distance will help them or hinder them. She likes to have them close when she wants, but I feel the distance is helping to prolong problems arising as she will be liking being taken out on a weekend, whilst she gets to rest and recuperate (let her hair down) during the week. This means she wont be displaying any narc behaviours.
She has so many problems I cannot believe they haven't encountered problems. She has trust issues - but has got social media official really quickly. She likes to be ignored one day but smothered another, so you never know where you stand. She likes it "rough" but then finds it offensive and degrading sometimes. Basically, you never know how to act with her because she likes both ends of the spectrum so you're always guessing, always making her upset/uncomfortable.
We had a massive row on December 22nd and she was out dating a week later and has been with him ever since - it doesnt make sense to me. In the past (but she was still young then, like 23 and younger, 28 now) she always got bored of guys after 6 months. Maybe she has grown up now and this wont happen.
She caused the massive argument, yet she moves on within a week and I am left hurt and confused. Especially as I have just found out, my work colleagues knew about it, and she was finding pathetic excuses (like have I got her screwdriver, can I send her a powerpoint etc - when she could ask others) to contact me that kept me hanging on.
I just want her new relationship to end as it will be a big kick in the teeth to me if it lasts, and she doesnt deserve it before me. Childish I know, but those are my emotions / feelings.