wodienjong wrote:"According to Freud, narcissists are dominated by their Ego to such an extent that the Id and Superego are neutralised."
I was under the impression that covert narcissists are dominated by overly powerful superego.
That's my impression and experience too. The way I translate Freud's tripartate view to myself:
1. EgoThe part of me which fell asleep at the wheel, compelled to support/play-into what was/can/is happening inside (the FS and the narrative). I call that my Agent-self.[1] I ignored my TS, or was driven by its emotions. But, I viewed my FS as my TS. And, the FS was driven by (seduced into, this is a different topic) by what I call the "Presence", it's at the other end of what Vaknin refers to as the "narrative" (connected to the FS).
It's the part of me which doubted, which knew there was something wrong, and I needed to "give in" to the drive to try harder, again, etc. It's the part which took over when I accepted something was terribly wrong (my shattering 2.5 years ago). It's the "me" who is writing this, who can be "now" and disconnected from the narrative, and has control over the FS's capabilities.
It could actually be part of my FS, or TS. I have no way of knowing. This is DIY (and I'm planing my own pacemaker transplant soon.
). I'm just describing it in terms that have made sense to me. I've read about "Agent Self" and that's it. I then find that in Freud's Ego.
2. IdMy True Self. This was the last thing I identified. Maybe I should have sooner. There's not much there. My first intro to it was a mental image of being on the top of a tall NY building overlooking the city at night, and the door opened to my TS. Something that had never experienced anything.
I've come to believe the Presence is disconnected memories of my TS. I think there is a "narrative" connection between the TS and the Presence the same way there is between the FS and Presence. It's not as noticeable, but there's some kind of interaction between the TS and FS through that Presence. I can't entirely explain it.
3. SuperegoMy False Self. This seemed to be multi-faceted. I discovered this over time. But, I was aware of it (generally) shortly after discovering the narrative (which was almost immediate upon learning of it). One facet is the hyper-critic. The other facets can be strengths and used carefully. Without those other facets, there's nothing. Because I learned I could isolate and ignore my narrative, I had a whim 12-18 months ago to block FS. That was not pleasant. There is a balance that can be walked between the TS and FS. But, I don't see the hyper-critic in it.
I seemed to have relegated the hyper-critic to a conscience I didn't have before. It's a little more neutral, more conscientiously engaged inward and out (empathy). It's kinder to me, and tied to how it got there (the awareness) it's kinder outwards (it can relate more to others).
My point is, the other parts of the FS seem less maniacal. They're more neutral. But, they can still get emotionally invested the wrong way if I'm not grounded/centered (if I lost track of the narrative and started feeling comfy with the lie). That's when something unproductive seems to occur between the FS and TS. But, without those parts, doing something, being engaged with sources of supply, there's nothing there. It's just me and my TS which I feel much more comfortable with compared to that accidental exposure a year ago. But, it's still vastly less than the cozy lie.
I like writing about it because it makes me revisit what I know, and how I would revise it slightly (such as the narrative being the apparent denominator between dysphoria and depression. Feeling vs numbness. It seems like the same kind of "narrative process" is occurring on the low side like it does on the functioning (supply-gathering) side. It's just gathering it from the TS in what I'm concluding is maladaptive way. It's using the lie to avoid reality: nothingness.
The last time I wrote about it was
here. I went into more detail there. Above I went over the structure at a high level, and filled in some things I'd emphasize now that I didn't then. Otherwise it's much the same. I might say I'm more familiar with my TS.
I could go into the Presence-Narrative more. That's kind of an interesting topic. I've written about it in different places:
I should do a single post about that.
[1] EDIT: I found where I got "Agent-self" from. It's
here. I linked to it from
this thread where I talked about it too. (I really need to condense this into one thing.).