NimplyDinply wrote:Take a look at this article: http://psychology.about.com/od/theories ... cneeds.htm
Neurotic people (those with PDs, codependents, certain anxiety disorders, etc) were not accepted AS IS when they were younger and tend to go on to develop neurotic compulsions and "needs". Most people high on Neuroticism will identify with a few of these, I know I did.
The N was also not accepted AS IS when they were younger. Their innate self was disapproved of in favor of a parents own narcissistic need for admiration. Ns tended to be raised to be "perfect" to glorify the parent/s. Their emotions were not nurtured and they were probably invalidated a lot as children (like most other PDs) but selfishly overtly praised at the same time. This is abuse, just not the "classic" kind, although the classic kind can be on top of these sort of gross boundary violations.
I could be wrong with the above, this is just what I suspect.
It seems to me that the children that were more classically abused or shunned, the scapegoats or whatever, would be more likely to develop BPD or ASPD.
wodienjong wrote:Lets say a person sucked at everything they did their whole life. Perhaps they had cognitive problems or something of the sort. They were also socially rejected their entire life and ridiculed constantly. Would it be normal for such a person to develop a sort of "vulnerable narcissist" personality later in life even if they did not have an ingrained narcissistic personality from childhood? Covert narcissism is rooted in the person feeling worthless and needing praise and recognition to validate themselves. Well, if a person really has no reason to feel they have worth, wouldn't it be normal for them to develop a hypersensitivity to failure and a need for validation?
In this case, could it be something that can be cured by a sufficient amount of validation to the point where a person realizes their worth?
Philonoe wrote:If a child makes supernice sandcastle, he is happy, can show it to others, can play with it. If parent says : "wow, your sandcastle is wonderful, you are the best little boy of the world, nobody can make nicer sandcastle, etc", they kind of steal the pleasure.
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