I know this guy who seems to give a lot of backhanded compliments. Its very subtle but every time he compliments me, I get a vague feeling.... like, I actually feel bad instead of good.
I.e. He was telling me "I don't understand why you're not more successful." This could be a compliment, but its also a putdown, pointing out that I'm not that successful.
He's an artist and he also makes portraits of people he knows, and they usually seem subtly unflattering. Like almost a caricature.
He is really addicted to attention too. He love bombed me for awhile, but is now neglecting me and moved on to love bombing someone else. I feel slighted, like he wants to rub in my face he suddenly found her more appealing. (I think the real reason is because she donated him some money though. Maybe he love bombs people hoping they will give him donations.)
Anyways, do NPDs tend to give backhanded compliments? I'm distancing myself from this man now because I've noticed how he seems to subtly point out flaws. Wondering if I could be correct or maybe I'm just overly sensitive.
Thank you for reading, and for replying.