beesknees wrote:No, I appreciate the blunt truth. My mind is always so foggy because of him. It hurts, but not like the confusion and lies. Okay so my last question....the only solution is to completely cut him off?
Stop doubting yourself and do it.
beesknees wrote:No, I appreciate the blunt truth. My mind is always so foggy because of him. It hurts, but not like the confusion and lies. Okay so my last question....the only solution is to completely cut him off?
beesknees wrote:...the only solution is to completely cut him off?
My mind is always so foggy because of him.
the only solution is to completely cut him off?
beesknees wrote:I am doubting myself. It's hard to wrap my mind around none of it being real
This is horrible. It's like ripping away pieces of me. Thank you guys, for your blunt and painful honesty. I will report back.
freyja wrote:My mind is always so foggy because of him.
People who have been or are in a relationship with a person with a personality disorder often can get into a type of disordered state themselves temporarily. That happened to me. One can lose oneself in the other person's problems or the problems of the relationship and not really think about oneself clearly -- one's own needs, dreams, desires, values ...
No one can tell you what the solution is for you. Choice A, you stay with him knowing how he is and what you do and do not mean to him, accepting that he is the way he is and not imagining any big change in his personality. Choice B is to leave and open up a world of different possibilities for you. We only get one shot at life.
I just want him to treat me better. It seems as though everyone is saying that isn't even possible. Or that it would be fake. ... Everyone says its hopeless.
My God, that's exactly what he said. "You're still good. I'm just going to drag you down with me".
HowPredictable wrote:Here's something else to think about, beesknees... and it may not be easy to hear.
If you persist in trying to get a loving, caring, mutual relationship out of someone who you KNOW has a personality disorder, someone who has HIMSELF told you he will drag you down, and someone ALL your friends are saying will never change ....
Then it's time to do some serious self-examination, to figure out why you are sticking around, and why you are hoping so fervently for something that is impossible to achieve.
And let me suggest that it may have something to do with wanting to prove your OWN specialness, by working so hard at this futile, doomed relationship. You see, deep down you may be thinking that if you can get someone like this disordered man to treat you well consistently -- against all odds and against everyone's better judgment -- then YOU must be a very special person, right?
I barely care for myself... I just want him to treat me better.
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