What do NPD find in BPD?
What do BPD find in NPD?
How do they see themselves and each other, what do they gain, what do they lose. What is the connection. I'm curious. Thank you.
PamHelf wrote:I've posted this link before but this article has a really great explanation:
http://gettinbetter.com/dance.html
kal-el1992 wrote:
i wonder if this is true...
In truth, the Narcissist is no match for the Borderline. It doesn't matter how smart or powerful he is, she'll turn his world upside-down to where he could lose his entire fortune, acquire a serious disease, and become a shadow of his former self. The Narcissist's grandiosity works against him in this type of coupling, because he has an unquenchable need to win, due to self-worth issues. He won't let himself be one-upped by anyone, but the Borderline is always better at this game than he is. As he cannot tolerate this loss of control, he'll literally fight to the death to maintain it--never realizing what he's losing/giving up, while highly focused on surmounting this challenge.
Harkness wrote:kal-el1992 wrote:
i wonder if this is true...
In truth, the Narcissist is no match for the Borderline. It doesn't matter how smart or powerful he is, she'll turn his world upside-down to where he could lose his entire fortune, acquire a serious disease, and become a shadow of his former self. The Narcissist's grandiosity works against him in this type of coupling, because he has an unquenchable need to win, due to self-worth issues. He won't let himself be one-upped by anyone, but the Borderline is always better at this game than he is. As he cannot tolerate this loss of control, he'll literally fight to the death to maintain it--never realizing what he's losing/giving up, while highly focused on surmounting this challenge.
I think it's sort of true, but way too overstated and dramatic. I think this statement is an exaggerated version of what really goes on.
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