I'm basically the same. It takes a lot for me to hate someone, and I never hold a grudge. Unless something triggers my narc insecurities (rare) I just don't care. I think it's because I never feel much anyway. It's easy to forgive someone when you don't care about what happened.
Erm.. i thought the ability to forgive easily/not hold a grudge for long was a non trait rather than an N trait..?
all three of the true Narcs i know really well hold on to a grudge forever.. it gets thrown in peoples faces and spoken about bitterly for years after the event.
I usually can't be bothered to hold on to a grudge, life is too short to go stressing about something unless you burn my house down.. I'll never trust you again in quite the same way if you break my trust - i'll just remember to hold back a touch in future.
Now this is a Narc trait? I thought i was doing okay.. *wanders off in confusion*
Perhaps the difference is that someone with NPD dismisses the bad action entirely.. the non recalls it but balances it with the good stuff..?
On topic and although i cannot be categorised as NPD (hopefully).. i'm attracted to men that I can play mind tennis with.. someone that enjoys quick fire humour and rapid (and good humoured) debates..
a good natured intellectual is seriously attractive.. (i'm a typical INTJ)