Kiskiskis wrote:VirginiaEsquire wrote:Anais wrote:BlueFlower - I end friendships a lot. BPD trait. Chop and change relationships with people a lot.
It's a defense against people getting too close to you. NPDs have it too, just in a slightly different way and triggered by different things.
I just did that to a friend. Funny thing is, I don't feel at all like it was distressing with her, yet still I did that. Im going to fix things, but for that Im going to have to reveal what's wrong with me..
With my best friends it's like we can have ages with no contact and when we meet, it's like we never were apart. I keep people safely distant
Yes, I understand completely. When people get too close, I feel vulnerable. At the same time, when I start to let someone get close and they do the same thing to me (keep me at a distance, pull away, etc), then I get upset with them. So I guess it's a bit hypocritical really.
And I'm totally derailing Anais' thread here. Back on topic, then.