I am interested in whether or not a narcissist designs a discard of a non based off of either spoken of or perceived weaknesses of the non.
I make it very clear to friends/sig others that I only found out my father was having extra marital affairs by accidentally viewing a string of emails he wrote to his girlfriend when I was a pretty young girl and it ruined my relationship with him. I made it very clear when dating my ex-narcissist (my psychiatrist diagnosed him as so) that if he ever wanted to date someone else, to just tell me so and we could walk away.
I find it insulting and cruel that he decided to ultimately discard me by dating another woman and allowing her to post all of their doings and interactions online where I could easily view them and piece together the fact he was in a side relationship with her. I saw so many photos of the two of them together before I found the balls to say something to him about it; something I was never able to do to my father. I had literally said from the beginning "If you ever would cheat on me, please don't make me find out by information online." Naturally, that's what he did.
Is it a possibility that actions and or a discard like this was designed by him because of my past experiences? Maybe he thought he would get away with it because I had made it known when confronted with the issue in the past, I never stood up to it and pretended like I knew nothing?
Either that or he didn't give a fu(k about my past.